Absent MIL

My partner works away from home for ten days then is home for four. Throughout my pregnancy my MIL was supportive. She checked in regularly etc. Baby arrived at the end of January and it’s basically been radio silence. She’s still warm with me when we go and visit her and FIL when my partner is home but it’s crazy how she’s just disappeared. No messages, nothing. We live 8 minutes away from them, they’ve been told multiple times they dont have to wait til my partner is home to see the baby, but I don’t hear a peep. Baby has had some challenges, I’ve had mental health struggles post baby and the support I thought we’d get is non existent. Not a single message to see how we are.
They’ve held my LO probably 4 times in 3 months. LO gets upset when she’s handed over because she doesn’t know them. I’m just shocked that they’re willing to miss out on spending time with her more than anything.
I’m starting to get highly irritated by any unsolicited advice she provides when we’re there and really resent handing my baby over to her. I do because I want them to bond. Any advice on navigating this is greatly appreciated.

in our community

Pregnancy snoring anxiety

I have started snoring and apparently it is *loud*.
I have major anxiety about keeping other mums awake on the labour ward after giving birth. I’ve tried saline spray and trying nose strips tonight but I think I’m more stressed about this than labour! Anyone else in the same boat or have any advice?
Thank you!

Struggling today

I have an 18 month old and I’m 20 weeks pregnant. I’m struggling today mentally, I tried to do a home workout because for me exercise really helps my mental health and my daughter just screamed at me until I pick her up. It’s just the realisation that my life isn’t mine anymore and it’s going to be even less of that with another child.

Everything I do is for my child and it’s so tiring 😞 I went from being fully independent and doing whatever I want to becoming a wife and mother. There are days I enjoy it but it’s rough and I feel so lonely my husband works a lot to provide for us and I don’t have close friends locally.

I just feel regretful for my life decisions I really loved my life before being a mother. both pregnancies were “mistakes” but I was married and didn’t want to terminate so I guess I just have to deal with the consequences now.

I’m sure most mums can relate in some way. I’ve just burst into tears now. I’m exhausted physically and mentally. Now I’ve just put the TV on for my child and I already feel so shit that she’s watching a lot of screen time when we are at home - I try to get out the house a lot with her but I do find it hard especially whilst pregnant

MUMS OF 3

I have a 2 year old and a 2 month old, even though I’m so freshly postpartum I do want one more. Am I going crazy? What’s it like having that extra kid? What’s a good age gap ? Maybe I’ll wait until my newborn is 4?

How to stop my one year old attempting to scalp and flay me.

I’m at my wits end guys. If I’m in proximity to her she’s either ripping out my hair or scratching me. I move her away and that works for the amount of time it takes for her to crawl back to me and try again.
I’m exhausted from constantly trying to stop her. “No” isn’t working. “Stop” isn’t working. “Gentle” isn’t working. I’m getting so damn overstimulated every single day.

Big baby comments

My 3 month old son is on the 99th centile for both his height and weight (I'm 6ft and his dad is 6ft5) and we seem to get lots of comments from people about it.. (he's a bruiser/chunk/big boy ect.) I've always had trouble with body image and I don't know if I'm just being overly sensitive but I feel a pang of sadness whenever someone says a comment about his size... What are some good comebacks to say when people make these comments, without being rude or confrontational

i left

left my abuser today. we have a 6 month old baby. dont have it all together but have family support. any and all encouragement/success stories if youve been thru this please feel free to share🫶🏼