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Hi you lovely ladies, and so sorry we are on this group, my heart goes out to each and everyone of use... our rainbow babies will come in time 🕊❤️

So I previously had a miscarriage (5th miscarriage), I was almost 3 months (11 weeks) and I've lost at 10 weeks and all went smoothly as could be with that loss, but this one was horrific 😢 😞 I've tried to talk to the babys father (which is now my ex partner) so I delt with a loss if a relationship then lost the baby, and he doesn't understand or seem sympathetic or seems interested in talking about it at all... I'm just looking to chat to some lovely ladies that are okay to talk about this kind of thing, as I know its not easy for anyone.....

I know I can speak to doctors and I will, I'm just looking for some lovely ladies that have been through this before as not everyone can understand if they haven't been through a loss sadly 😞😢

Baby Dust to all you lovely woman and again my heart goes out to use all 🕊❤️

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That’s horrible I’m so sorry. I find for men it’s all just hypothetical until the baby is born, it’s not happening in their body, so they don’t tend to feel the loss as much as we do. Plus they don’t have to go through any of the horrors themselves. He obviously wasn’t even a good enough partner for you guys to stay together so I wouldn’t be reaching out to him for any understanding. I found therapy slightly helpful to get it off my chest but at the end of the day no amount of talking about it or thinking about it in a new way can really change the fact that’s it’s frustrating and depressing to keep going through these losses when no one knows whether we will eventually get our rainbow baby or not. Early on I found it helpful to talk to friends that had gone through a miscarriage but now that I’ve had three and had all the testing (or at least all the testing the fertility clinic was willing to do) and gotten no real answers or help. i feel like it’s a very different experience

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