Sick note due to mental health

Hi everyone,
I am currently almost at the end of my 2nd months of fit note due to mental health, this is the first time going 2 months and above . Now i am thinking of getting a 3rd fit note due to the fact i feel i still not all that strong to resume work. My question now is, do gp give you a 3rd one which makes it 3 months of being off from work or it s not allowed?

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Hello! Not a Dr but my GP didn’t seem at all concerned about me needing time off (I’ve currently been off for three weeks and counting) and just told me to send them an e-consult with the new date on it…in fact generally (I have lots of friends who are GPs, none of them would go in hard to challenge a sick note request, the most they might do is ask some supportive questions so please try not to worry). I asked to speak to a female GP when I first had an apt to ask for one as it made me feel more comfortable…
How far gone are you? I’m 8 + 4 and hoping I’m going to start to feel better soon…I’ve made peace with the fact that I’m probably going to be off until at least 12 weeks (this is the longest I’ve ever been off sick but I’m just struggling with life right now and know that I can’t perform at work).
Hope this is helpful.

No worries at all. Sorry you’re also having such a shitty time. If you wanna chat more, happy to share my deets xx

Oh also, not sure about your situation but I was referred by my GP to the perinatal mental health team for assessment and signposting. If you haven’t been, may be something you speak to your GP about the next time you speak to them…

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