Suddenly won’t nap

My daughter is 4.5 months old and up until this week was a great napper. We’d always get a long nap in the morning (was capping at 90 mins but she’d sleep longer if I let her) and had just moved to 3 naps where she’d have another 90 mins over lunch then a 45-60 min one in the afternoon. However last few days she’s been refusing to nap for more than an hour and most are 30-45 mine. She’s also SCREAMING when we put her down, whereas before she’d be ok for naps (bedtime is a different matter lol). We’ve just switched her to the upright pram which has made for crap pram naps which I was expecting but it seems her cot naps have also gone out the window.

Our nights have been rubbish for a month or so, which I thought was the regression, but could this be an added element of fun now?! My eldest was a terrible napper but at least slept well overnight and I’m not sure I can cope with bad nights and bad naps 🥲

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Next to me crib

How do you get newborn to sleep in the next to me?

I have tried but end up giving up, going downstairs putting him in the carry cot and he is absolutely fine/drifts off!

Ive tried putting a top in the next to me so he can smell me but that doesn't seem to work.

Environment is the same; dark room etc.

He's 7 days old today, is it just perseverance and eventually he will just do it? Or are there any tips to encourage him to stay/sleep in the next 2 me?

2 stages in one!

3 months in and WOW… nobody warned me about this stage 😂😭

One minute she’s smiling, cooing, the sweetest little angel…
Next minute I’m being screamed at because I dared to change her nappy or put a sleeve on the wrong arm 🙃

Apparently this is a “developmental leap” AND the start of an early sleep regression…
I call it:
✨ tiny human with BIG emotions and zero patience (and no interest in sleep) ✨

We’ve got:
• 30 minute naps
• dramatic outfit changes
• only-mum-will-do moments
• random meltdowns for absolutely no reason (or all the reasons??)
• and a sleep schedule that changes its mind daily 😅

But also… the smiles, the cuddles, the way she settles on me like I’m her whole world 🥹

So yeah… it’s a lot right now.
Messy, exhausting, emotional… but still somehow the best thing ever.

Anyone else in the trenches with a 3 month old? Send help… or snacks 😅🤍

Food shopping

Please help how to do a food shop with a 4 month old! At the moment I put her car seat in a shallow trolley and can only buy limited stuff till its full and fill my massive bag on the hook which isn't enough. She can't sit up so can't go in the sit up ones, I can't wear her for that long takes about 15 minutes and my back feels like its going to break, the pram storage only holds limited stuff I wonder if I'm missing something obvious? I know you can get ones to put the car seat in but there's never been one available when I've been! Any help would be grateful

Unpopular opinion 👀

Baby sleep consultants have made an industry out of exhausted mums wanting a ‘fix’ to their babies sleep, even though there’s no such thing

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