Help me pls
I moved to England to be with my partner in September 2024. He only worked two days a week, and he constantly upset me by accusing me of cheating on him. I never argued back, I just listened and told him it wasn’t true, but he kept doing this every time he went to work. He has panic disorder, and whenever he had to work, he would panic.
After a year, during the summer, he left his job because he was panicking every day. By then I was pregnant. I supported him through everything, even though he called me a whore every single day. Because of all this, I changed too — I became aggressive and started answering back. He then lost his job.
When it was getting close to the birth of our baby, I ended up in hospital for a week. At that time he had a job and took time off because of me. In the hospital, he lay on the hospital bed himself, wouldn’t let me rest, didn’t help me at all, and only cared about himself. He just wanted to sleep all day. Even the midwives told him that the bed was not for him. He became more and more rude and unbearable.
When the baby was born, his parents would not allow me to breastfeed my baby, and they also influenced my partner. It has now been five months, and he is unemployed. He does not let me or the baby rest. If he holds the baby, after five minutes he gives the baby back. He deliberately wakes us up. He talks about other women, tells me to show my breasts to women, and constantly wants sex, but I simply do not want anything from him anymore. Especially since he is in love with my best friend, and I have started to fall out of love with him. It is all too much for me.
His family is also unsupportive. When I asked for help because I felt unwell and dizzy, they told me to calm down because everyone was sleeping.
He constantly behaves like a small child. Sometimes he even speaks in a childish or mocking voice. If I tell him off, he only annoys me more.
What should I do? When the health visitor comes, he pretends to be normal.
Protect you peace
A woman messaged me and her very first line was, “Talking to other women can help reduce stress levels, how are you?” Ma’am… we don’t know each other.
You really have to be careful. I’m all for real conversation and supporting each other, but I’m not here to be anybody’s emotional dumping ground. Protecting my peace and energy is real. especially as a mom. I want friendships that feel mutual, balanced, and not draining.
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