Is this true?
There was a post I read which I can’t get out of my mind. I have a son and a daughter (both under 2). It basically said how daughters become a reflection of us, they are a mirror back at us showing us the good and bad and making us reflect. The same with sons and their fathers eventually.
My marriage has been a wreck since we had kids, constant bickering and disrespect. There are good parts. Would I want my daughter to be who I am now? Someone who accepts being spoken to like this? I used to be a very strong, loud, proud and extroverted person. I would love for her to be like be like the person I was 5 years ago. However, now I feel silenced in my home, allowing myself to be disrespected. I can’t say all of the changes are due to my husband, maybe motherhood too.
I can’t stop thinking, would I want my son to treat his future wife how I am being treated? No. Would I want my daughter accepting being spoken to this way? No.
He is a good dad in many other ways, he does provide, plays with them, helps with bedtime routine etc. but we are failing to model a good relationship. I dont think he likes me anymore, let alone love. I’ve brought up therapy many times but he will never agree.
Maybe it’s best to be apart? I don’t know what messes up kids less.
Struggling - suicidal tendencies
This might be a long one but i need to vent.
Im really struggling, me and my wife went through IUI to concieve and everything was fine until she just left me when i was around 20 weeks pregnant. She was still involved with appointments and the birth but during this time still gave me hope of coming back - flirting, kissing me etc. We planned to spend her two weeks leave in the same house so we could maximise our time with our little girl. A few days in i found a pair of someone elses knickers in her bag. When asking about it, she lied again, and i kicked her out. We're now doing day on/day off with our daughter (which i know isnt ideal as its killing me pumping) and im not even bothered that shes with someone new, im bothered that she lied and the lack of respect for me as the mother of her child.
All in all im really feeling it, having suicidal tendencies to where im googling what meds i can take and planning a day but at the same time i look at my little girl and am struggling to think about missing out on her growing up. Im just truly fed up.
