Am I Wrong?
Okay so I gave birth to my beautiful babygirl a month ago now & I’m seriously struggling with my BD. We’ve known each other since high school and were good friends and kinda lost contact after graduation (we’re both 25) so a few years later we reconnected and got into w.e tf that was🙄 so he breaks up with me (due to religious differences even though he knew my religion since HS, he’s Muslim and I’m Christian) and I ended up finding out I was pregnant 2 weeks after the break up. He wasn’t there at all during my pregnancy & that was a whole hot ass mess in itself. He was there when I gave birth and signed her birth certificate & everything but he’s been extremely inconsistent since. He doesn’t check up on her, doesn’t ask about her, comes to my house to see her MAYBE once during the week (one time he went a week without acknowledging her presence) and we got into an argument about that because he didn’t show up to her one month appointment and made every excuse in the book for it even though he was right there when we scheduled it. When he didn’t see her for that whole week (this was very recent) he asked to come by and I told him no because he didn’t bother to even check on her let alone want to see her. I did everything by myself (setting up her pediatrician, making sure she got her insurance, getting her birth certificate, etc) And now once again for this week he has yet to check on her or see her and he blames it on “being busy”. I’m just so tired of being the primary parent and he just comes and goes as he pleases and yet I’m the bad guy when I call him out on it. He doesn’t appreciate the fact that I’m taking care of her 25/8 and I thank God I have my family and friends to help. I’m just so over it and I’m really trying not to resent him but it’s honestly getting really close to that point. I’m sorry this is so long but I just need to know if I would be wrong to not allow him to see her this week if he even ask….?
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No just say “you’re busy” like he does pretty simple. You don’t have an obligation to always be free for his corrupt behavior and schedule just because it’s his child. Mothers know best and if you ain’t feeling the effort don’t even try to meet him halfway
Nope not wrong at all. We as woman don't get to just come and go as we please once the baby is born. We are the ones who step up and do what needs to be done. You are the primary parent and have the right to set your boundaries as you see fit. Tell him he either needs to step up and be a parent and consistent or nothing at all. Its not right for him to pick and choose when its convenient for him, making you have to rearrange things for him. Having a baby is a big deal, its absolutely wonderful and amazing but, its also a struggle and takes everything you have. You are still getting back to yourself and at the same time trying to keep a tiny human alive. You need to focus on you and the baby not the bs he wants to try and pull.
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