Vent sesh- Do your MILs think your husband (26M) is their husband and have a weird obsession with your baby(5mF)?

I understand the bond between a grandmother and her grandchildren is sacred and well as a mother with her child...But do your MILs think your husband is their husband or have a weird obsession with/comparing themselves to your child?

Husband:
-She will call him every other day asking about his whereabouts and if he's okay. (Used to be everyday but he had to tell her to chill out) And if she doesn't get a response from him (he ignores her) she'll call or text me to see about him and have him call her.

-Calls him to vent about his siblings and his fathers (biological and adopted dads) or about any friend or family drama she's going through. And when she was working would call and tell him about her day.

-Tries to memorize his sleep/work schedule. To anticipate when to call him or stop by to see the baby. (Yes she feels like he has to be here to see her grandchild)

-Constantly bragging about him on social media even though he has 3 other siblings. (Yes he's the oldest 🙄 go figure)

My daughter:
-Since the sonogram she has expressed that she hopes my daughter came out looking like her. (She didn't lol) She would send me her baby pictures and and would even say her legs in the sonogram looked like hers. Anything my baby does now like how she sleeps, eats, chews on her fingers, sits.... She swears she had the same mannerisms.(Midn you I did the same things as a baby and was just thinking it's a baby thing but 🤷🏾‍♀️) And whenever she starts going on I just smile and say okay out of respect for my husband. Meanwhile my husband is spacing out and not even listening so him butting in doesn't happen. Whenever she visits she hyper fixates on my baby girl so much so her daughter (7F yes 7) starts to get upset. She'll tell my baby that she's just soooo beautiful and that she loves her so much about 100 times in 1 hour (I wish I was exaggerating) and then when my little sister in law wants to ask a question she'll ignore her. (Of course if I catch on that she's being ignored I pause everything and make sure she is heard)

She's mentioned that she feels like her daughter takes after her dad and that she sees herself in her sometimes and I guess that where the "obsession" (IMO) stems from but that's a her/therapy problem. I used to not feel a way about everything but now I'm getting annoyed. Anyone going through anything similar or am I overreacting?

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Does my husband gaslight me? (Texts in comment)

I have been taking care of myself lately and focusing on me because I let myself go for years. I lost 30 pounds I’m feeling great. I’m starting to be so embarrassed about how my husband treats me. Like I don’t know why I allowed this for 16 years. Please read the texts in the comments and tell me if this is actually gaslighting.

Do you have 2 or more boys? Make me feel like I’m not alone…. Pls!!!

Im a mum of 3 boys ages - 5, 9 & 10
(also have a 5 month old girl ;)
My boys send me CRAZY!
I feel it’s on a daily basis with their fighting amongst themselves (whether physical or verbal), constant sh””t stirring or even just bullying each other. It’s like pecking order, oldest fights with the middle child then middle child does the same to the youngest. Not a day goes by that they’re not at each other.
Im going insane!!! Same sh””t every day…. Leave him alone, don’t speak to each other like that, thats his give it back, keep your hands to yourself, don’t do that again, why did you have to hurt him, apologise, can’t you all just be nice to one another. Im like a broken record. It never f””kin ends!!!!!!

Will it ever end!??? How do you cope or handle your boys, is it the same at your house?

Rant - disconnected partner

I think I just need to vent tbh… my husband resents me breastfeeding and resents me for being able to soothe our child and he can’t…

They’re 4 months and I’m trying to explain she still sees me as a part of her and it’ll change when she’s older. I give him tips and it improved but she just cries at him all the time. Ask him to cheer up and not sound angry - makes it worse 😞 he’ll walk off or go on his phone ignoring her whilst she looks at him and blames me for causing it…

He won’t hear it and keeps arguing with me since 6 months pregnant. He doesn’t like that we contact nap (reflux and feeding) and living situation… like I get it but I’m struggling and need his support as I have PPD.

We have none from either family members and it’s just passive aggressions from all…

Anyone got advice or going through it too?

Help🥲

Me and my “partner” are going through a huge shift in our relationship and we’ve both decided it’s best if we split.
We have 2 young children (3&1) and both names on our mortgage that we’ve only had for a couple of years.
I work part time due to minimal childcare & he is the bread winner and provides for most things; we do both pay towards mortgage & bills though.
How would we go about the mortgage? I cannot afford it alone and I currently don’t get any help from the government as he earns too much (it goes off household).
How would I eventually get the help I worry I’ll struggle until I get this? I can’t work more hours due to no childcare around us.
It really is so important I get this all sorted asap for a smooth transition for the children and for my own mental health as staying in this relationship is draining and it’s affecting my parenting.

Should your husband help?

Let's say you're a stay at home mom with 2 kids, and your husband works. He pays the rent and bills, Should he help you clean, cook sometimes when you're overwhelmed, help with laundry?.

Accidents

So I have my sister staying with us for a couple weeks. She has an 8 year old and he has frequent accidents. He poops his pants every day and just sits in it. Then lies that he didn’t and doesn’t want to clean himself up. Even if she’s around he still is just walking around like that. I’ve had to constantly clean the couches and bathroom and really everything. Including the washing machine . I mean I woke up one morning and there was poop on the kitchen floor!!! Like I have a 1 year old that’s not ok. I don’t know what to do.