Sex issue w husband
My 28 year old husband and I (26) have been together going on 7 years. We’ve never really had a healthy sex relationship/schedule imo, just sporadically whenever we’re both in the mood or if I’m feeling willing even when not in the mood. It’s never seemed like enough for him, yet we have agreed no porn or masturbation ever - after catching him paying for OF models 4 years ago.. we have a 18 month old girl together and I’m currently 28 weeks pregnant with our son. Yesterday he kept hinting that he wanted some and I playfully put it off until later last night and when he initiated sex again I gave in.. yet when we got to the bedroom he couldn’t get hard so I tried sucking it all gummy wormy and shit and he literally came in my mouth without even being hard like at all ??? Then he still couldn’t get hard in order to have sex with me - that’s after eating my pussy and the other foreplay. He then finger fucked me like that was enough, when really it was just embarrassing at the time so I faked my orgasm bc I was getting out of the mood and in my head wondering why he couldn’t get hard for me.. he swears he has no idea why and acts upset and sad and blames me for not having sex enough. Does anyone have any similar experience or advice on what could be wrong? The only thing I can think of would be that he’s not attracted to me all big and pregnant.. bc with our first near the end of the pregnancy he stopped initiating sex around the same time. I of course asked if he is still attracted to me to which he said of course and there is no one else. I’ve talked to him about it as much as I can, still getting no where but more arguments. Any advice is appreciated! Thank you anyways!
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1. Caving in to give him sex when you don’t want it is NOT okay and he shouldn’t continue to pester you. This isn’t acceptable. I’m sorry you’ve experienced that.
2. OF model is outrageous and I’d have left him for that at the time… sounds like he has a very unhealthy relationship with porn / sex.
3. Not initiating sex during pregnancy I don’t see a major issue tbh, especially late pregnancy. My partner hates pregnancy sex as it makes him feel uncomfortable and of course I don’t look the same, I don’t think it’s weird if your partner doesn’t want to in late pregnancy. I personally also don’t enjoy it either.. but that’s just me. HOWEVER, in your circumstances pairing that with his past behaviour then struggling to get hard would also make me feel the same way you do..
Honestly, to me sounds like he has an unhealthy relationship with sex/porn and it needs to be addressed. To me personally I wouldn’t stay in a relationship for the first half of that paragraph alone but that’s me..
A good way to help you think about this to ask yourself “if my daughter told me she was caving in to please her partner when she’s not in the mood and he was paying for OF models” what advice would you offer her x
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