Is that cheating?

Unless it’s someone I was into prior to dating and my husband asked me not to have a relationship with the person out of respect

No but I think there are boundaries and that you obviously need to be respectful of your partners feelings ie messaging in the late hours not ok nor is continually texting all evening.

I think it depends on the relationship and the boundaries set. I know I'm some, they are okay with speaking with the opposite sex and others are not

What’s the conversation sound/look like?

I don’t think so if the conversations are appropriate

Once boundaries are crossed, it could be

Depends on your boundaries set with your SO. I only message male family members or a very close friend who we both trust. Our sons godfather to be specific

Also ask yourself, would you be happy if hubby messaged another woman? Regardless of the reason or context, how would you feel? There lies your answer.

If it were happening in reverse would you consider that cheating ?

I think it genuinely depends on the relationship and boundaries set but it also goes into what yall are talking about ect if ur being loyal without making any space for confusing then it shouldn’t be considered “cheating” but if you know ur spouse isn’t okay with it and still do it then I think that’s called disrespect not cheating