Disney films
Okay so I suddenly feel like a bad mum. I know I’m not.. but in this aspect.
So I’ve a 2.5 year old who has the TV on 24/7 - not literally, we go out daily and she also goes to nursery x4 a week but when home, it’s on.
It used to be a range of programs she’d watch, ms Rachel, tractor ted, waffle dog etc but recently peppa has been her comfort and her go to so she watches.
The ONLY Disney princess film she’s watched and likes is Moana. She’s watched a bit of Cinderella and to be honest think that’s it. No frozen, no mermaid etc.
Then I see all these videos online of their kids constantly wearing Disney princess dresses, how they’ll be sad when it stops etc etc. my daughter doesn’t even have any as she never watches 😭😭😭
Am I being a bad mum by not putting them on for her more??? Instead of peppa I might subscribe to Disney+ so I can chuck that on for her instead?
Thoughts please. What age did your daughter get into all the princesses? I feel this is maybe prime time??
Baby bonding with in-laws
I’ve been having a tough time getting used to my baby bonding with my in-laws. Baby is 8 month old. My in-laws have been staying with us helping watch baby while I work. My sis in law spends the most awake time with my baby and plays with her. 90% of the wake window, she uses it to kiss my baby and barely reads/entertains her with toys. Just kisses and makes my baby kiss her or gives my baby zoomies by throwing her up in air. My mother in law on the other hand, focuses on elaborate cooking and makes a mess of the kitchen and doesn’t let me prepare baby’s food. Insists on preparing it herself and is almost late by atleast couple hours. Like baby eats breakfast at 11 AM, lunch at 3 PM etc. She gets offended if I offer to do it myself and cries and my partner gets mad on me. Also I normally do contact naps with my baby and my sis in law takes baby to the bedroom and contact naps which I’m totally uncomfortable with. Another thing which she does bothers me is - I do not like too much social media presence of my baby. I refrain myself most times but occasionally post my baby without face. My sis in law copies this style and posts almost everyday with my baby. Intimate pics like kissing, cuddling, baby reels etc. I’m not sure if it’s just me being possessive over baby or if I should be grateful and accept the love my baby is getting or draw boundaries for what I’m uncomfortable with. I really wanna do the last one but my baby seems so attached with them. So it makes me wonder they aren’t forcing my baby do anything. Maybe it’s my relationship with my in-laws which is surfacing as tension. They have on multiple occasions been selfish with me. E.g my wedding reception dress was ruined by a tailor and my husband asked if my sis in law could offer her dress instead. My mom in law and her blatantly refused and were okay even if the bride had no dress to wear. They also always compete with my parents in their relationship with my baby. First time mom so any advice from other moms would help me! TIA.
Mortgage split
If you have a mortgage/own a property with your partner, how did you split the percentage of how much you each own?
Me and my partner are buying our first home together. His income is roughly 50k and mine 36k. The deposit will be paid completely from my partners savings. I can tell he feels sketchy and is refusing to legally note is as 50/50 share between us. He wants me to have 30% and he owns 70%. His reasons are that he’s putting down the entire deposit and has the higher income, and keeps saying ‘if anything happens between us’ but won’t specify more.
I have told him I want 50/50 but he doesn’t agree (even though he said if he was advising his children in this situation he would tell them to do 50/50).
The part reason I want 50/50 is that I think it’s fair and it’s a joint home both mine and his. Yes he earns more, but that’s because I’ve been the full time parent and can’t work the hours he does. Yes he is contributing the entire deposit which is a lot, but he also only has this much savings because I didn’t work for a few years after having our kids so I took full time care of our kids and was like his free childcare.
Also, for the last few years I have paid all of our rent with my own wages from work, which has allowed him to save as much as possible for ‘our future’ and this house.
BUT, he has said he would most likely pay all our monthly mortgage payment completely himself. So generally, he will be most likely paying a lot more than me in our new house so part of me has taken that into consideration and decided I would accept a 40% share and him 60%. He is still adamant to have a 70/30 split.
