Night time feeds taking over a hour

What am I doing wrong 😭 every time my girl wakes up it takes me about a hour to feed and get her back to sleep. I breast feed untill calm then nappy change, give half breast milk in a bottle , burp then rest of bottle then she falls asleep and then frantically moves and does a poo. Then I change nappy and she’s screaming..then I give breast to calm then hold her for 15-20 mins to settle before putting down then pump and before you know it it’s been 1-2 hrs and then half way due the next feed 😭😭 (happens like this or some variant of this)

since she was born husband first feeds while I pump but he’s back to work now and needs sleep as operates vehicle and is on a work site.

I sometimes just BF but when I do this she falls asleep too soon and sleep is far more broken for me. After 5/6AM I just BF and have her in bed with me

in our community

Did the sleep trend change while i wasnt looking?

From my perspective, 4-5 years ago everyone was all about schedules and structures and Moms On Call and ferber method sleep training. As soon as my son was born early 2025, it felt like a huge shift in attitude. People were horrified / thought we were idiots for being on a schedule, i have been insulted for not baby wearing, and i have been talked to by MANY people like im a neglegent mother for rarely contact napping or bed sharing or when we started ferber.

Judge away if you must, maybe its always been this way, but it really feels like there was a huge shift in how we mamage contact and sleep.

I can’t believe some of you let your babies watch Ms Rachel 🤬

Instead of letting your babies sit in front of the telly watching Ms Rachel…
Try educational alternatives like Deal or no Deal, we’re having a blast 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Is life ruined

I feel like no one will ever love me or like me and my child I’m a single pregnant mom at 22 feel like this is gonna mess up my love life it’s already making me disgusted that I don’t know the baby’s father I’m disgusted with myself and my life is ruined I had a baby to young… I’m sad my son he isn’t here yet but I’m no longer happy I’m just depressed depressed with myself…. Hate my life feel like no one will ever date me and I won’t be able to have anymore fun… I was just in a abusive relationship now this a lot of guys don’t like women with kids…

Tantrums ( terrible 1s)

Hey ladys

What are we doing about tantrums? I have 18 month old twins and if its not one its the other. I do my best to give them what they need and want, Iv been told to stay calm, ignore them, give them a toy. And most of the time, all their needs will be met. Does anyone have any hacks I can try? And will this every go away?

Day naps

Where do I put my little one to sleep in the day? He’s almost 4 months & outgrown the Moses basket which I had downstairs, but I’m told I can’t put him in a room without me during the day

Transition from next to me cot to bedroom

So my little one is 4 months, and she’s a big girl! She’s starting to outgrow her next to me but I’m worried she’s too little to be in her own room yet (tbh it’s more I’m not ready yet) but when did you guys move baby to their own room and how did the transition go?