Tantrums ( terrible 1s)

Hey ladys

What are we doing about tantrums? I have 18 month old twins and if its not one its the other. I do my best to give them what they need and want, Iv been told to stay calm, ignore them, give them a toy. And most of the time, all their needs will be met. Does anyone have any hacks I can try? And will this every go away?

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Yes, it will go away. Hang in there

Omg my daughter is the tantrum princess. I usually just tell her what she’s allowed to do and give her something she is allowed to have or an activity Shes allowed to do and then if she continues I’ll distract her with a walk or pretend to be excited about something and then Shes so curious that she stops 😂

my kid started the “terrible 2s” trend before 2, it hasnt gone away yet but i think some of it is due to her inability to communicate. (and possibly some other behavior issues) i would definitely find a way to make it easier for your kids to communicate with you and see if it lessens the tantrums

How can I find better ways for them to communicate? They understand more then they can say

I highly suggest remembering our babes are humans with real emotions. Speak calmly validate how they are feeling in the moment let them know its ok to be upset frustrated mad etc but acting a certain way wont get you what you want. Find a better way. Let them process it out let them feel themselves. Dont give in. Have them go by themselves and come back to you when theyve got it together and want to communicate the problem. Depending on age, explaining to them what they feel and why and empathizing but also explaining why its not gonna happen and presenting options works. “Im not giving you chips but you can have apples or you can have nothing. Which one. “I know youre mad you cant play with that right now and thats ok but i have to work and it makes a lot noise so you can watch tv or you can take a nap. Which one”

Not a child expert but i know these things work for me as a soft parent

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