Feeling lost
Hi ladies, I have a beautiful 14 week old and he's all I've ever wanted in life... I've been through a lot to get here.
From the get go I felt I've just slotted into mum mode and I've loved it, I still do... But I'm just feeling totally lost at the moment. I feel like I have no idea who I was before having my baby. When I talk to my friends, I genuinely have forgotten what I would talk about pre baby. I'm dreading the thought of going back to work (it's a while off but still). I used to be so career driven and focused and I just don't know what I'm doing in life anymore. Being a SAHM wouldn't work for me and my partner and tbh I don't want to lose that part of me as well.
I don't even remember songs anymore cause all I'm singing is nursery rhymes 🙈
I guess I'm just struggling with my identity and I know some people go through this so I'm seeking advice on how to get through it, any tips would be so much appreciated
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Not gonna lie to you, girl. You are gonna feel this way for A WHILE. In fact, truth is, that woman you were before ain’t coming back.
You know like how caterpillars go into a chrysalis to become butterflies? Well, they have to completely dissolve their bodies into a sort of gooey gel first. They are essentially a different fucking creature.
When you became a mum, the old you went and just fucking… died. And YOU grew in her place, little wings and all. Now you are this whole new person and you need to learn who that person is.
I’ve learnt that this new version of me is more sensitive, more resilient, more empathetic, more organised, more mature, less interested in her career, more anxious about the state of the world, and braver than she ever thought possible. She also knows all the words to “The Baby’s Done a Poo”. 😖
So… take some time. Find out who this version of you is.
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