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Baby Daddy Drama

Feeling defeated

Got so much in my head and I feel like no one understands or they’re just being nice bc they’re family or close to me. Long story short I’m 23 and getting divorced. I have a 1 year old and I’m 20 weeks pregnant. I just feel so defeated in ever finding someone.
When I was started to date and had just my daughter that was one thing. I felt like shit about my body bc I lost all the weight (plus some which was big good) but I have so much skin that I look like a 90 year old just in my belly bc she was so big. Eventually I started getting more comfortable with it but then I found out I was pregnant again.
I was seeing someone right before I found out and he was totally understanding (long story). But that relationship didn’t work out for so many reason and none to do with me being pregnant. Now that I’m single again I feel like nobody would want to be with me. I’m not truly putting myself out there bc I do want to focus on what I’m going to do with 2 kids mostly on my own but a girl has needs too. I feel so lonely and isolated even when I have people around me. And anytime a guy has popped into my life there always another shoe to drop. This one wants casual, this one just wants sex, or there’s other options that are way easier than dealing with my baggage. I look on ig at some guys following and it’s all beautiful girls, none with kids and beautiful bodies. Now here I am dealing with my ex husband prepared to have his second kid and my body went from looking regular to a 90 year old on my belly to getting bigger again with this pregnancy. Don’t get me wrong I love my bump but I feel like no one else is going to. No one will take me seriously. I’ve gotten stupid comments on hinge about how having one let alone if they knew I was pregnant. I didn’t everything “right”. I got married, I bought a house, I had kids. It’s not my fault he didn’t want to be a husband or be faithful or even try to work on things. I tried. I tried for a long time but I can’t force him to be with me or even to be a decent guy. Now he’s out here doing whatever he wants and I’m just stuck. This baby is the biggest blessing I could’ve asked for but this situation is not where I thought id be when it happened.
Point is I know not everyone will accept me being pregnant and I get that. But I feel like even after no one will want me. No ones gonna want a 23 year old divorced mom of 2 young kids with a saggy belly when they can have a hot girl same age, beautiful bodies and no kids or bd drama. I know I was a good wife. I know it was a him problem and we’ve even had that conversation but now I’m I’m a position where I feel like people won’t look past those things to even see that side of me. Cause how could I be such a good wife if I’m already divorced before 25 or why wouldn’t someone just want to have their own kids instead of dealing with someone else’s. I truly feel unlovable and like I’ll be like this forever. All I’ve ever wanted was to be a wife and a mom and now I’m stuck in a position I never wanted or thought I’d be in. I know no one chooses this but I just feel like for me personally it’ll just be me and my girls and no one will want it.
If you read all that kuddos bc I don’t think many people will. There’s so much more but this is long enough as is. Idk just really feeling down with this situation and even more afraid for it to affect my pregnancy or my first baby. Can’t cry, can’t talk to anyone, just doing it all myself and feeling guiltier when help is offered bc that is what I did to myself.