Few months ago I found out my fiance cheated on me during my pregnancy and even after not even a month after I had my second baby with him. I really don’t think I can stay with him after this betrayal during my most vulnerable time when I should be enjoying motherhood and my babies. I just don’t know how to leave for good. I keep pushing and pulling and I’m scared I’m going to regret my decision if I leave him. Does this get better? How can I feel confident in my decision to leave? 💔😔
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Personally I would leave. Because if he did it once he will do it again.
The question you need to ask yourself is if you stay are you OK with this happening again in future.
Also if this is the example you want to set for your children.
Often times women stay out of fear of going alone but when they stay there self confidence over years of cheating deteriorates.
If you do decide to leave make sure:
- you have an emergency fund.
- you have a job.
- your lean on your support system.
If you decide to stay.
- Still build that emergency fund pot on the side and also have a job or work study toward getting the job you want.
- Get new hobbies to keep you busy.
- Also consider couples counselling.

Personally I’d of left straight after finding out, it’s a complete betrayal of trust and respect and especially when you were pregnant.
I know it’s not always as simple as just getting up and leaving.
But I’m sending you all the love and strength in the world and a happy life with your babies ❤️❤️