Threenager vent

I fear my oldest is going to be like this. When he gets mad he throws things l, screams and hits. I was never taught how to regulate myself so it’s been rough

OMG I had a fiasco this morning as well. My son has this thing where he needs to do everything “by himself“ but by himself means everything takes 10 times longer. If I try to help him, he throws a fit. . What really upset me today was that he hit me in the face. I tried sitting down with him and telling him that hitting is not allowed, but for whatever reason he didn’t give it SH~T. My fear is that he’s gonna grow up to be an ungrateful little brat if I don’t do something soon. I think I handled the situation the best I could, but it just took so much out of me and now I’m too exhausted to work.

We are going through it too babe. I tell my friends that I have a bipolar child. One minute she’s lovely and sweet and having the best life and the next she mad and throwing a fit because she doesn’t have the right colour plate. It’s been a wild ride. I just really try to remember that this is the first time of earth and they’ve only been here for 3 years and have no idea how to regulate their emotions. So it’s our job to make sure they’re safe, emotionally safe and have a safe space to be who they need to be. There are consequences for bad behaviour but we need to just be there for them. I know it’s hard for me to regulate my emotions and I’m 36 so I could only imagine what they’re going through. You’ll make it through girl! You got this!