Eldest starting nursery

So I have a 2 year old (birthday beginning of March) and an 8 month old, my 2 year old starts nursery in July and I can’t help but feel guilty about sending her and having my youngest stay at home.

Has anyone got any advice on how to deal with this? I had to pop into the nursery the other day to pick up tickets (nothing relevant to nursery) and I felt so emotional then and I wasn’t even leaving her there.

The reason she is only just starting is because the wait time for the nursery is nearing 2 years and I had know idea about this until I gave birth etc as I was a first time mum there - so I know I’m not sending her there for me to get a break.

I’m just finding it hard to tell myself that she knows I’m not just wanting to get rid of her for a couple hours 😭😭 she is only going 3 x a week, for 3 hours a time.

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Men are dumb sometimes

Hi ladies
Honestly my husband does things that truly baffle me.

So tomorrow we have an estate agent coming to our home to value it and take pictures. You best believe I’ve just cleaned and organised that house from top to bottom. He knew I was doing this as I started work late on purpose so that I had the time. You would think he’d have the common sense to hide my birthday present wouldn’t you.

I mean don’t get me wrong I’m grateful I’ve even got a present coming my way but it was literally just sat, BOX OPEN for all to see in our spare bedroom. 😑🤦🏼‍♀️🙄

How can a man be so thoughtful but so dumb all at the same time.

*sigh*

Now I’m gonna have to do my absolute stellar acting performance to make out like I’ve not seen it and I’ll have to act really surprised on my birthday.

Men!

Am I been a psycho.

My husband has always been the type of guy to big me up, tell me I’m beautiful when I look like a troll and make me feel better about myself, he never ever looks at other girls, he’ll look away at nude scenes and if I make a compliment about something he won’t bite or anything.

Currently 25 weeks pregnant and measuring huge, feeling insecure, been talking about monjaro and stuff once baby is born

Anyways, today I’ve gone on his phone to show him something I wanted ( mine was changing ) and a message popped up from a work friend ‘ can’t do anything outside of work ‘ so I was curious to what had happened, and bad wife award, I snooped.
Anyways I end up seeing and I’m absolutely raging.
I’m more annoyed at the fact he has NEVER been that guy but he seems very influenced by a guy who he speaks to at work. I know there celebs and he would never stand a chance but just the fact I’m feeling so down and ugly and he’s literally making comments about other girls has me in tears and feeling sick.
Can I just blame the hormones 😞

I think my marriage is over

Me and my husband have been arguing a lot recently and we got into two arguments last night he got upset moved all his things out the room including his nightstand , he no longer want to take my son (not biologically his) to the bus stop anymore or pick him up from after school camp (we only have one car ) he stated that we are separated and refuses to have a conversation . I think it’s a chance my marriage is over we have been down this road so many times and now I’m feeling like what am I gonna do to prepare for a life without him I have been with this man since I was 18 I’m almost 26 now I’m a Sahm with no car or income I have never done life without him my oldest son also doesn’t know my husband his not his bio dad . I’m not sure what to do I want my marriage to work I do but being down this road so many times what if I have to prepare for a life without him

Feeling guilty..

I’ve recently had my second baby and it’s made me realise how ready my 4yo is to go to school.

I found it quite easy when it was just me and him. I’m a SAHM and he only goes to preschool 9 hours a week which I coped with fine like we would do lots together but now I’ve got another little one to consider and raise I feel like I need a break from him more than ever & that makes me feel really awful.

Is this normal? I feel like a bad mum like it seems I’m trying to get rid of him but I just find having both of them all day together ALOT.
How did you find the transition from 1 - 2 kids?

Is anyone else being baby led?

I keep reading how lots of mums are trying to get their baby into what seems like a military routine with feeding, naps, and bedtime. Am I the only one who is letting my baby do his thing, and I go with him ? I feel a little lost. It has been 11 years since my last

Excuses

My partner keeps using the excuse that 'he wont be here when hes back in work' to either get out of doing something or because ive called him out for not doing something or doing something wrong.

How do I deal with this because on one hand it upsets me because I feel like he saying I'm going to be an incompetent mum, even though i know im not and ive done days by myself in and out the house but on the other hand (like ive said to him) while hes here im going to use him for help/to do his part because why take time off if hes not going to use it to be a dad and help.

Advise?