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Baby Daddy Drama

Need to vent: he ruined my 3D ultrasound

My “partner” has issues, like emotional regulation issues and this pregnancy has really highlighted them to the point that idk if I can tolerate it anymore.

Last weekend I had a 3D ultrasound scheduled at one of those boutique businesses. If you know about them you know they aren’t cheap but his mother really wanted to go to an ultrasound and I don’t have one scheduled until later this month and I’m switching OB offices so I’m not even sure if I’ll keep that one. I scheduled it as a bonding moment because her and I don’t have the best relationship, she’s felt a bit left out of the pregnancy, and I figured it’d be a nice Mother’s Day present for her.

My partner went out with friends the night before (granted he never goes out so it wasn’t a big deal) he drank too much and stayed the night at a coworkers house and planned to drive back in the morning because he knew we had an appt. A family member had died earlier that week and he mentioned on the way home he had a wake to go to later that day, this was extremely last minute and I had already had plans plus I don’t fit any of my funeral clothing so I told him I don’t think I should go and he got an attitude with me. When he got home he was bitchy and was hungover.

I tried communicating my plans with him and he snapped at me saying “Why the fuck are you trying to communicate with me while I’m hungover”, I told him I don’t want him coming if he’s going to speak to me disrespectfully and he stormed off and locked himself in a room to nap. An hour later when we were suppose to leave and his mom was due to arrive I woke him up and he says he told his mom that I rescheduled the scan. I never said I was going to do that and the boutique’s policy doesn’t even allow for that less than an hour before appt time. Plus, I paid a deposit for the appt. I ended up going alone and he keeps downplaying it saying he didn’t ruin anything and it’s just a 200 dollar photo… and I just didn’t want to lose a $20 deposit, which it was way more than $20.

Then I noticed my ultrasounds were moved and confronted him and he got pissy with me and started bitching that I didn’t show him the ultrasounds and he had to find them for himself. Idk why he’d care since it was just a $200 photo 🙄

He never takes accountability and has made this pregnancy stressful for me, he’ll snap at me and blame things on my hormones when I’m not even doing anything. I’m starting to really hate him.