No visitors after baby with a toddler?

My toddler didn’t take very well to his baby brother at all so at 16 days pp we’ve still had no visitors whilst my toddler is here x

I had no visitors for 2 weeks, no toddler. It's best for you, baby, and toddler.

It depends. My toddler didn’t have that option as my mum had to fly in to help with her childcare. Tbh though she loved it, obv the grandparents wanted to see baby but they made such a fuss of her being big sister. They took her out to the park whilst baby and I slept, they played with her whilst I pumped, they helped clean, it was lovely.

My toddler took to the big sister role like a duck to water, the jealousy bit came when he was 1 and walking and taking her things.

Jealousy is a normal and expected emotion, though. I wouldn't try to prevent the older sibling from ever having to experience it - just be prepared and help them through it when it happens. They'll learn a valuable lesson, that jealousy is a normal emotion and they can get through it, because it doesn't last and they have many people around them who still love them and give them attention. Having the grandparents around can even help with that, because they can give extra special attention to the eldest and remind them that they still have a special bond.

That's fair! It's up to you how you want to do it, you know your toddler and what you feel they can handle, just offering perspective.

I think it somewhat depends on your toddler and their temperament, plus her existing relationships with these people. If she’s close with her grandparents it might actually help to have people there who can give her undivided attention. And depending on what type of birth you have it may also be really nice to have more adults around to help.

It’s a major adjustment for sure, but I would do what works best for the family as a whole. In most cases I don’t think having others around would make it so significantly harder for the toddler that it may not be worth the benefits (assuming these visitors would be helpful; I realize not all family is).

We had visitors from being in hospital, our eldest loved seeing her most favourite people and all of them made her feel just as special as the new baby. It was very heartwarming to be surrounded by so much love.
Just my take, I know some people don’t allow visitors and can understand the reasoning but watching your nearest and dearest interact and show so much love to your children is so so special and something I never regretted with either of my children.

So with our 1st we had visitors and found it sooo overwhelming an only had 2 days to our selves in 2 weeks! With our 2nd as we were worried about our 1st feeling left out (she was only 18months) we told everyone no visits at all till we say for the first 2 weeks. If you show up you wont get in and it was the best thing we ever did. We all got our time to adjust and bond to baby and then everyone met baby after.

My parents visited but took toddler out for 2 full days to give us both some time to 'rest' between baby naps and for me to not be moving about as much.

We gave him loads of attention once he was back home and he's always been a grest big brother.

Most of our visitors also brought a small gift for toddler or played with him to make him feel special. In fact, I feel like our youngest hardly got any visitors once those initial couple of weeks were over !

He's now 3.5 and baby just turned 1.