Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

Fighting for my life please help

My son is almost 1 and this had been the hardest year of my life. His father is not involved at all. At 2 month I had to abruptly move out of my house still very sore from my C section. I had to move in with my sister who hates me and always has since I was born. Both parents are deceased no friends no support. And lastly I just found out I have a mass that I need a biopsy on and I'm extremely afraid. Have to wait for surgery because my son solely nurses and won't drink from cup or bottle he needs and I'm so worried I have the will to fight for him and him only but the burden is heavy and hard I just want to cry but I'm just angry . My own cousin sold me a lemon card looked me dead in the face while I held my 1 month old and took my money. I need God to show me what to do this is so hard all on my own

in our community

Does this plate look ok for lunch for a 13 month old…. Also ideas for lunches please

He won’t eat all of this but seems to like to have different bits to pick at. Any ideas for lunches would be good too as we run out of ideas all the time.

I find it wild people are offended that I rather give birth alone & have our son at home

I didn't realize how offensive it is to decide to give birth alone, knowing that your son is at home with their Dad/your husband... When I tell people this they are always like "I wouldn't be okay with that". I started getting rude with my responses telling them that it's a good thing it's not their son, baby or birth. I made this choice... Yes ME because having a new baby in the home is going to be stressful for our son, so instead of having him elsewhere with a stranger I would rather him be in the comfort of his own home with his Daddy. It doesn't bother me, I am excited and at peace with this. We don't do nursery, babysitters, childminders and such and my Mum/step Dad can't fly here on a whim... Too expensive for the stay, airfare, transport, food etc. I already worked out plans in case *knock on wood* something goes wrong and also there are plans for my husband to come in with our son. It is just wild to me the people that try to say "send your son here" "hire this person" like... No and no and no.

How would you feel?

It's my birthday today and my partner has taken the day off.

We are planning on going for dinner later and his sister having our two boys.

Whilst he was in the kitchen doing something his phone kept ringing (we are open with our phones and can go on then whenever). I said to him oh this woman has called you three times and left a message saying call her. I asked should I reply? And he said yeah tell her I'm on annual leave today. I also messaged his sister back about later.

He raised his voice at me after and said don't go down my phone. I said to him why do you have to have a go at me on my birthday? I did cry and just went into the garden.

Shortly after he asked if I was ok and I said no, why be funny on my birthday? He said whatever and I just said I don't want to go out later now and he said good, that's fine by me.

Would you be upset about this on your birthday? I'm fuming.

Advice ?

When is the right time to start applying for nursery’s ? I go back to work after a year off. Any advice?

Dirty butt from nursery

So on Thursday I picked my daughter up from nursery and came home and played a little. It was then time for her bath before bed and when I undressed her and took her nappy off I noticed she must've had a poopy diaper because her but crack wasn't completely clean. Now it wasn't disgustingly dirty but I'm expecting it to be clean y'know?

Now I know my daughter is in that stage where it's like wrestling an alligator to change her nappy but surely they should be used to this.

She's quite new to nursery and this was her second week. She poops daily and this was the only time she wasn't cleaned properly.

Do I let it go because it was a one time thing or do I bring it up to the nursery manager?

Swimming lessons

When did you start swimming lessons for your LO?