Any other stay at home mums hate it?

Is anyone else a stay at home parent and find it really bad for their mental health? I don't want my 20 month old in daycare/nursery yet and thought my mum would be able to take him a couple of days but she's proved she can't cope. I just find myself ruminating and getting stuck in my own thoughts without more to occupy my brain than just chores and playing. We go out every day at least.
Anyone else? How do you cope?
My mum is all like "oh I was off work on benefits for 16 years with you and I loved it!" Making me feel I must be an awful parent. But I've always loved working. Giving it up has been hard

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My baby girl is only 6weeks old and i hate being stuck at home all day. I am used to working 16hr shifts but have been pretty much housebound since xmas. I am already looking into ways i can get back to work as i feel my mental health is better when i am doing a job i love and have worked so hard to get over the years.

You should't feel bad as everyone is different and has their own ways of coping. Working means you are providing for your child also teaches them to provide for their family when they are older.

Girl I feel you because although my husband suggested it, it was a NO for me! Some people LOVE IT and some people HATE IT! But for me, I just couldn’t see myself being in the house all day cooking, cleaning up, and taking care of the baby, then I would have to be the sole teacher as well because dad is working!!!! You don’t have time to be YOU! Working I have the luxury of taking the long way home if I feel like I’ve had a rough day and I actually love seeing my babies faces after daycare and them telling me everything they’ve learned!!!! It’s $517 weekly for both but I’d pay that over being stuck at home begging for a social life! Life has to be a balance because working all day or staying home all day will really work on your mental!!!! Even when I miss them at work I just check the daycare cameras and watch my babies enjoy themselves or if I’m not too busy I just drop by because they have an open door policy!

Yeah at times I really miss working, having a purpose and schedule. It was worse in the beginning but I think I’m feeling a lot better now I just try to stay busy and it might help you if you treat Stay at home parenting like a job maybe make a schedule for yourself or also you could look up some courses to squeeze in at home to keep your Brian occupied

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