Bedroom Sharing - bed time help

Are there any mums in here with a ‘2 under 2’ age gap (roughly), who’s littles share a room? We’d love our two to share (they’re 3.5 & 1.5) and we’re due our 3rd later this year so wondering whether to transition them into a room together during pregnancy so we can have a consolidated bed time routine before the next baba arrives. We can’t work out the logistics of bed time with 3 of them if the oldest 2 are in separate rooms with separate (although similar) routines as one parent is with each of them. Not interested in leaving them to go to sleep on their own which is why it would be easier for them to be used to having one bed time routine together in one room. No idea how to make this transition though or what bed time would look like ?? They already do the first half of bed time together anyway. Any advice welcome, TIA!!

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I have a 17 month age gap between mine, although they could have their own rooms they sleep so well together so we don’t want to stop that
I’ve always synced their routines
This is what our bedtime routine looks like
They bath together then i’ll dress them in their room, then we pray and they sleep, i stay with them until they fall asleep, recently they have been wanting to mess around, jump in the bed and chase each other so i do have to hold them down but once they’re down they take like 10-15 mins to fall asleep, they sleep through pretty much and if one wakes in the night they normally don’t wake the other but in the morning when one is fully awake they will wake the other if we’re not quick enough getting to their room, i have a 17 month old boy and almost 3 year old girl for reference and we still have the baby monitor in the room just to keep an eye, they both have separate single floor beds but honestly they always both end up in one by the morning

All 4 of mine currently share a bedroom. My oldest (5) refused to sleep in his own room until my then youngest (4 in a week) went in with him.

I had them both in the bed with me until 3 and 1.5 and they both had the same bedtime and continued with the same routine when they went into their own bedroom. Now all 4 (5, 3, 2 and 11m) share bedroom and have same routine. Youngest is going in her own room within the next month and I'm currently 30 weeks pregnant so just been preparing the bedroom so she's shared with her brothers until now.

But they all go up together, might talk amongst themselves for a little bit but they are very good at going to bed, settling down etc and don't take too long to fall asleep. I was worried about them disturbing the baby but she's very good at settling and is used to the noise so doesn't get woken up. Sometimes one wakes in the night but the others aren't disturbed. Mine are deep sleepers or just used to sleeping through noise so don't often wake each other in the mornings 😂

But they do have days where they purposely wake each other in the mornings if we don't bring them downstairs first, but it's not an issue on school days 😂

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Unpopular opinions, I'll start

I do not think stopping breastfeeding despite your ability to do so is what is best for your baby. I can't help but feel disgusted by formula knowing what their companies have done and what they still continue to do, and I don't trust that stuff. I would only use it if it was my only choice to do so

Need advice from other mums! Am I overreacting?? Being a helicopter mum?

I’m going away for a night to support my sister during a court case that’s quite traumatic for her so I can’t miss it.

My boyfriend is taking care of our 7 month old. This is my first time leaving her alone for the night, my issue is my boyfriend fall sleep asleep when looking after her at night. He doesn’t do safe sleep and I walked in the room yesterday and she was wide awake kicking her legs and he was sleeping because I asked him to take over doing a night feed. He insists he wasn’t sleeping even though I literally had to wake him up to tell him he was sleeping and I was annoyed because she was close enough to the edge that if she rolled she would of be straight off the edge and she’s a roller! he said I was crazy getting so paranoid and he wasn’t asleep. We have an owlet and we’ve already had issues with that because when she was newborn he fell asleep with her on her chest and the alarm went off because she fell in between his arms and he was asleep but I don’t even trust him waking up to that alarm he’s a really deep sleeper. Thank god for the owlet!

I’m really stressed because I don’t want to leave her but I cannot not support my sister in this case it’s been so hard for her. Am I being a helicopter mum and over reacting? This is no judgment on co sleeping btw if he wanted to co sleep fine but he’s not done ANY research on it and the fact she on the edge of the bed makes me thing he doesn’t care. If I speak about it to him he gets really mad at me and just calls me crazy basically and says he wasn’t sleeping? So even when we talk I don’t get anywhere? I’m at a loss bc I can’t tell if I’m just being reasonable or being crazy would you leave your baby knowing this?

Night time nappies UK

My little boy has recently started sleeping a lot more on his front, so every night or morning he will wake up not only the nappy will be wet but his vest, pj's and sleeping bag too. He will usually wake up to be changed and have milk about 6 hours after going to bed. We have tried Aldi, Tesco, Asda & pampers and all had a similar problem I'm pretty sure it's not user error as it happens no matter who puts the nappy on and it has only been happening since he has been on his front most of the night. He is a size 4+/5, depending on the brand. I've even tried pull-ups, which seem to be better, but he is then wide awake and struggles to go back to sleep after.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated as there are only so many times I can wash the sleeping bags until there is nothing left 😂

Sorry it's super wordy

Any other stay at home mums hate it?

Is anyone else a stay at home parent and find it really bad for their mental health? I don't want my 20 month old in daycare/nursery yet and thought my mum would be able to take him a couple of days but she's proved she can't cope. I just find myself ruminating and getting stuck in my own thoughts without more to occupy my brain than just chores and playing. We go out every day at least.
Anyone else? How do you cope?
My mum is all like "oh I was off work on benefits for 16 years with you and I loved it!" Making me feel I must be an awful parent. But I've always loved working. Giving it up has been hard

Breastfeeding grief

Is anyone experiencing the same?

So with my first, I tried breastfeeding, pumping, combi feeding for 11 weeks and sent myself a little mad before stopping, going to 100% formula and everyone was happier. I grieved our journey big time, was so upset, triggered every time I’d see someone successfully breastfeeding.

This time, our early days started to look similar, baby wasn’t gaining weight, I was trying to feed around the clock but he was unhappy, I was unhappy, my whole family was unhappy. I have a theory that I simply can’t make enough milk, no matter how hard I try. At a week old, we made the positive and intentional decision to move to 100% formula. I then used a haaka to relieve discomfort and only got about 1oz each time (I know that expressed amounts are different to what baby can get but this helped me process it a little).

I know that this was the best decision for me, my baby and our family but I still have a small feeling of grief. I see a lot of breastfeeding posts on social media and every time I see them, I feel a little sad that that’s not me. I felt so ecstatically happy when I made the decision to go to formula, it made such a difference to us, but now I just feel a bit sad. Not sure if it’s baby blues disguised as sadness over our journey.

Is anyone experiencing the same?

Do you keep the monitor on throughout the night when baby moves into their own room?

We're getting prepared to put baby in her own room, and feeling really sad about it! She is 6.5 months.

Her room is next to ours, but we're going to have to shut her door to prevent the light getting in. We wondered whether we should leave the monitor on overnight to make sure we hear her, or does that sound a bit ridiculous? The thought of her having to resort to crying to get our attention makes me feel really sad (again, probably being ridiculous!)

How have other people gotten on?