Parents with late bedtime toddlers

My toddler goes to sleep late, like 9.30/10pm. I’ve tried getting him down earlier but it just doesn’t work. He still gets his 11 hours sleep in day so he is not deprived of sleep. My question is for other moms in the same situation what do your toddlers do in that 7.30pm-10pm stage when you need to wind down and chill out.

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Unpopular opinions, I'll start

I do not think stopping breastfeeding despite your ability to do so is what is best for your baby. I can't help but feel disgusted by formula knowing what their companies have done and what they still continue to do, and I don't trust that stuff. I would only use it if it was my only choice to do so

Need advice from other mums! Am I overreacting?? Being a helicopter mum?

I’m going away for a night to support my sister during a court case that’s quite traumatic for her so I can’t miss it.

My boyfriend is taking care of our 7 month old. This is my first time leaving her alone for the night, my issue is my boyfriend fall sleep asleep when looking after her at night. He doesn’t do safe sleep and I walked in the room yesterday and she was wide awake kicking her legs and he was sleeping because I asked him to take over doing a night feed. He insists he wasn’t sleeping even though I literally had to wake him up to tell him he was sleeping and I was annoyed because she was close enough to the edge that if she rolled she would of be straight off the edge and she’s a roller! he said I was crazy getting so paranoid and he wasn’t asleep. We have an owlet and we’ve already had issues with that because when she was newborn he fell asleep with her on her chest and the alarm went off because she fell in between his arms and he was asleep but I don’t even trust him waking up to that alarm he’s a really deep sleeper. Thank god for the owlet!

I’m really stressed because I don’t want to leave her but I cannot not support my sister in this case it’s been so hard for her. Am I being a helicopter mum and over reacting? This is no judgment on co sleeping btw if he wanted to co sleep fine but he’s not done ANY research on it and the fact she on the edge of the bed makes me thing he doesn’t care. If I speak about it to him he gets really mad at me and just calls me crazy basically and says he wasn’t sleeping? So even when we talk I don’t get anywhere? I’m at a loss bc I can’t tell if I’m just being reasonable or being crazy would you leave your baby knowing this?

Night time nappies UK

My little boy has recently started sleeping a lot more on his front, so every night or morning he will wake up not only the nappy will be wet but his vest, pj's and sleeping bag too. He will usually wake up to be changed and have milk about 6 hours after going to bed. We have tried Aldi, Tesco, Asda & pampers and all had a similar problem I'm pretty sure it's not user error as it happens no matter who puts the nappy on and it has only been happening since he has been on his front most of the night. He is a size 4+/5, depending on the brand. I've even tried pull-ups, which seem to be better, but he is then wide awake and struggles to go back to sleep after.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated as there are only so many times I can wash the sleeping bags until there is nothing left 😂

Sorry it's super wordy

Any other stay at home mums hate it?

Is anyone else a stay at home parent and find it really bad for their mental health? I don't want my 20 month old in daycare/nursery yet and thought my mum would be able to take him a couple of days but she's proved she can't cope. I just find myself ruminating and getting stuck in my own thoughts without more to occupy my brain than just chores and playing. We go out every day at least.
Anyone else? How do you cope?
My mum is all like "oh I was off work on benefits for 16 years with you and I loved it!" Making me feel I must be an awful parent. But I've always loved working. Giving it up has been hard

Breastfeeding grief

Is anyone experiencing the same?

So with my first, I tried breastfeeding, pumping, combi feeding for 11 weeks and sent myself a little mad before stopping, going to 100% formula and everyone was happier. I grieved our journey big time, was so upset, triggered every time I’d see someone successfully breastfeeding.

This time, our early days started to look similar, baby wasn’t gaining weight, I was trying to feed around the clock but he was unhappy, I was unhappy, my whole family was unhappy. I have a theory that I simply can’t make enough milk, no matter how hard I try. At a week old, we made the positive and intentional decision to move to 100% formula. I then used a haaka to relieve discomfort and only got about 1oz each time (I know that expressed amounts are different to what baby can get but this helped me process it a little).

I know that this was the best decision for me, my baby and our family but I still have a small feeling of grief. I see a lot of breastfeeding posts on social media and every time I see them, I feel a little sad that that’s not me. I felt so ecstatically happy when I made the decision to go to formula, it made such a difference to us, but now I just feel a bit sad. Not sure if it’s baby blues disguised as sadness over our journey.

Is anyone experiencing the same?

Do you keep the monitor on throughout the night when baby moves into their own room?

We're getting prepared to put baby in her own room, and feeling really sad about it! She is 6.5 months.

Her room is next to ours, but we're going to have to shut her door to prevent the light getting in. We wondered whether we should leave the monitor on overnight to make sure we hear her, or does that sound a bit ridiculous? The thought of her having to resort to crying to get our attention makes me feel really sad (again, probably being ridiculous!)

How have other people gotten on?