how can i leave him

how can i not have to rely on him anymore financially, like he’s never here he’s always at work but he’ll take the kids to school do shopping for me in the week take them to emergency appointments watch them if i need him to if i go out with family take me places stuff like that but the way he is he’s emotionally physically not there not supportive he’s a little bit controlling and sometimes maybe emotionally abusive i just don’t think we’ll be together forever but it doesn’t seem to be working either everytime we argue and the why doesn’t really matter here anyway, i just want to know how i’m supposed to figure out how to not rely on him for anything when he drives and has the money like atm i need him we have three kids idk what to do im so upset about it all😔

in our community

Am I a d-head for not giving my sister and brother in law all my baby things?

I’m looking like such a bad person here but anyways my partners brother and his wife just had their second baby (a boy this time) after having a baby girl 12 months ago. We had our first babies together they were born a week apart (I had a boy). Everything they brought for their first was gender neutral except clothes and despite them knowing they was pregnant they decided to throw/give away everything. Space wasn’t the issue as my in laws would’ve stored it for them until baby was here. So now they asked for the clothes my sons grown out of which I was happy to give to them but now they are also asking for my car seat, bouncer, Moses basket, next to me, baby carrier, playmat and so much more but I’ve stored those away for a future baby and they are quiet expensive ones I’ve got even though I was struggling and still am with money I saved and invested in good quality products so I can use them again for a second baby. My mil and fil are trying to pressure me to give them up and no one’s offering money except for the car seat they said they’ll pay £20 for I paid £230😬 they’re all making me seem like this horrible person whose selfish even though it’s my partner who they are asking and he said no

Top teeth coming out?!

What do you reckon?

Money

Hello ladies x

I just wanted to ask the mums that don’t pay parts of the bill/rent, and your partner pays everything. Does it feel like a weight off your shoulders?

I wish i had this and honestly been feeling so down about having to pay parts of the bills and some how during the month my husband says he has no money so its more on me to pay for things… but he goes out with his friends a lot but swears he doesnt spend money.

I just want to imagine my life being a bit more privilaged 😅

useless partner

I’m here to rant and if anyone can relate. my bf is useless he does not do anything, when my daughter cries she does not settle with him because he has never comforted her or taken care of her. I have sleep less nights and still have to do everything round the house, he does one thing which is clean the bottles he even complains about sterilising them and doesn’t do it. he thinks he has it worse because he has to get up at 5 in the morning for work yet i wake up every 2 and a half hours because she wakes up (4months btw). he says all i have to do is feed and change her and put her to bed and that’s it. I have had so many conversations about it with him and he’s always turned it into arguments because he thinks he is saying he’s a bad dad. i have never left her with him for longer than 20 minutes (while i shower) because he doesn’t know how to look after her and what she needs it is ridiculous!! i need help what do i do or can anyone relate???

What kind of tv shows (that are appropriate to watch with your toddler) do y'all look at when you're tired of the baby shows??

The days I get burnt out on his stuff, I need to find more appropriate adult shows.

AITA?

So todayI had a wic appointment. Last night me and my husband were laying in bed, scrolling and about to go to sleep. I told him "we have to be at the office at 845, so we'll have to leave about 815am". He said okay and then a few minutes later when we put our phones down he said " did you set your alarms" I said yes, he ALWAYS sets his alarms so I didnt worry about if he had. Anyways I get up in the morning, I get myself and both of my kids ready and the bag ready. At 730 I gently wake up my husband and let him know he has about 45 min until we have to leave. He stays asleep so I'm like okay he literally just throws clothes on and we leave so maybe hes just waiting until the very last possible second. Which is fine because I know hes fast. 805 rolls around and Im like okay this is ridiculous we have to leave soon so I go and try to wake him up again and he just turns over. My daughter screamed at me in the hall so that woke him up. He goes into the bathroom and the clock hits 813 and I'm like "dude we have to leave in 2 minutes" and he starts getting mad "why didnt you wake me up" I tried. You turned back over. Also I wouldn't have to wake you up if you set alarms like you always do...Anyways we leave, he says he doesnt need GPS we've been there a million times. He parks and I'm like "this isn't the right building" and he says it is so I look it up on GPS and hand it to him and he says "yeah this is the building" so we get out and walk up to the door and this is not the building. I look it up on my phone and it's on the other side of the area we're in. So now I'm fuming, so I start walking back and hes like "where are you going" and I say "back to the car cause this is the wrong building like I just fucking said" and now hes pissed and saying I'm selfish and only care about myself and I don't love him, I'm a bitch, etc. I'm pissed because 1 I told him what time we had to leave. Hes a grown ass man who sets his alarms any other day why was today any different? And 2 I gave him the map to the building and he obviously didnt even look at it for more than 2 seconds