No interest in difficult things

My son has just turned 4 and I’m finding it incredibly difficult. He has no interest in learning things that are slightly difficult for him. Gives up instantly no matter what I try to do to motivate him to try.

It’s mostly athletic/sporty things. Won’t kick a ball back and forth or football, learn to catch, float or swim. Definitely won’t try to learn to ride a bike, we’ve tried a balance bike but the balancing scared him. So tried a tricycle so the balancing isn’t an option but barely tries to push the pedals.

Honestly it’s starting to get me upset. Is this normal for his age? Anyone have any tips? Should I just ride it out? 😂

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If he's in day care or school ask the teacher things he likes to do and try to go off of that thats what I did and my son is 2

Don’t push or pressure him. I learned this with my oldest. Ask if he wants to and then just say okay if he doesn’t and leave it. Mine hated toilets, biking, swings, swimming, fishing….all the stuff. The more you push, the more he’ll not want to. Just explore his interests and leave it at that. Always have things close by like a bike etc and eventually he’ll decide he’s ready and just do it himself or ask for help. That’s my two cents but it worked for my oldest who just tends to be a little more reserved and anxious. And sometimes our kids just don’t like the things we want them too as well, and that’s okay. They’re little individuals which is actually really cool. But do keep in mind that pressuring him very well might make him want absolutely nothing to do with it for a long time and damage your relationship with him.

Resilience and stamina are built and learned. Just keep trying and he'll get there. Don't pressure him as it'll make it a lot worse. Show him how you fail at things and that's ok - show him how no one is good at everything the first time they try it.

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