Fml

Feel so shit, got a 2yr old & a 2wk old and literally hate the newborn stage so much.

Pist off my toddler only wants my hubby since hes been on paternity leave and wont let me do anything

Newborn just wants to be on the boob all the time restricting what I can do and time i spend with toddler

Was just about to go to softplay but baby is screaming the car down so ive bailed and said I may aswell just stay at home glued to the sofa with him and sent my hubby off with our toddler

Now sat in tears because im so fed up and cant help but wish we never had another now 😭

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Man problems

Guys idk what to do ive just had a baby with this man (my bf) we went on a night out with my sister and towards the end of the night we got her bf to take us back. My bf got very rude towards my sister bf and her and I called him out for it when we get home… he then started punching the walls and yelling and lowkey being emotionally manipulative. I didn’t want to sleep in the same bed as him due to this and he then got upset by this. Luckily my daughter as gone to stay at my parents for the night so she wasn’t here to witness this but idk what to do as I now have the fear maybe in the future do something to me or maybe harm himself. Idk what to do

Mother’s Day vent

Im just needing a space to vent. I think im just being emotional for having high expectations for my first Mother’s Day. Me and my partner have been struggling a bit financially so I totally understand not being able to go all out but I feel like they aren’t even trying to make my first Mother’s Day special. When I asked what are you going to do for me I got “we have no money so I can’t do anything big..do you want cheap flowers?” And to me I don’t care about how expensive things are I care about intention! To me flowers are flowers and if I get any type of flowers followed by a happy Mother’s Day I’m going to appreciate it but instead I’m met with excuses. My family also knows I make a big deal out of any birthday or celebration but now that it’s my first Mother’s Day I think I expected for them to return the energy and that was also not met. I definitely know I set a high expectation but it still hurt my feelings when I’m being told “no nothing planned”. Just needed a space to let it out.

Being called mama

Ok so idk if I’m being dramatic or not but my mom and her husband thought it was funny to teach my 20 month old my first name instead of mamma. So now instead of him calling me mama he says my first name and they think it’s the funniest thing me I really don’t. Short background my mom begged for my son to call her husband grandpa because I didn’t like him growing up nd he never took on the role of stepdad just pretty much roommate with me and my siblings. So for her to beg and then teach him my name like it makes it more infuriating. Let me know if I’m being dramatic or not please cause imma bout to go off lol.

Help because I don’t know if my anger is justified

So my partner has friends and he is not seeing them like every weekends , but every time they meet it’s dissaster , he is back home late , drunk , smelling like cigarettes etc , we have a 6 months baby , of whom I’m mostly taking care all days as he is working . What’s annoying is that he promised once the baby is born , he would never be back late drunk or smoking , unfortunately he did it already and I’m really disappointed, as also every time we go out he is always needs to have a drink what is disturbing as well , like a few months ago we had a fight because he is postponing one of his promises and he told me that I needs help , but now I understand that all the anger I had was because of him , and even know he is out on some party while I was trying to put baby to sleep for 2 hours .
Like he is good bla bla bla , but the occasional meeting with these people are always bringing fights in our house , as all the time he is meeting them im having anxiety and even today he was not planning to be back home only decided to go when I texted

Mother’s Day

Anyone else’s partner get so worked up about Mother’s Day?
He asked what I wanted and I said basically time to sleep in and get up leisurely, he takes the baby, helps with meals and just acts as the primary parent for that day. I didn’t say I would even leave the house, but it would be nice to.
He’s so stressed tonight, saying he doesn’t do well with her and managing her right now and trying to do everything else on top of it. He says he wants me to have a nice day but feels like my expectations are too high and what I’m asking for is better suited for an older child who is more independent.
We have a 1.5 year old. Idk, am I asking too much for one day to not carry the mental load, not do dishes or laundry and let him attend to her needs?

Baby just will not settle when awake and husbands struggling

Just offloading a little, please don’t judge 🥲

My LG is 4 weeks old

I’m finding our baby quite fussy during awake times at the moment and I’m starting to find it emotionally draining at times.

My partner has been struggling since baby arrived and I genuinely think he may be experiencing some paternal postnatal depression/anxiety triggered by the constant crying and stress. It’s really upsetting seeing someone you love struggle, especially when this is our rainbow baby and something we both wanted so deeply.

he works, feeds, does a night feed while I pump, and is a really loving, hands on dad and supportive partner. We’ve been communicating really openly about how we’re both feeling and coping and he isn’t doing great at the moment

I think what I’m finding hardest is feeling like I need to keep everyone happy

Baby doesn’t annoy me when crying but it is over stimulating and I do feel I’m coping overall, but I get frustrated with myself when I can’t soothe her or when I can see my partner getting overwhelmed and I can’t fix that either. I feel I have a pressure to make it better because I have a magical wand (boob) Sometimes I end up taking over because boob usually settles her, but today nothing seemed to work and it all felt a bit much emotionally.

We went out for lunch and as soon as we sat down baby just screamed the place down and wouldn’t settle for anything and had basically been like it all day since. She has had a 2.5 hr nap since 12:30 but that’s it. She’s finally fallen asleep on me now after many attempts at getting her to sleep and failing to stay asleep longer than 5 mins, we had tried everything, she’s had a bottle, nappy change, cuddles, dark room, play distractions, white noise, massage and belly rubs, lots of upright trying to burp however nothing is helping. She’s has done a few farts and I can hear her belly making some noise sometimes.

I think I may aswell take her upstairs and handle her being fuss alone because I’d rather be stressed than be both of us be stressed have a crying baby and a upset partner as I’d rather him just care for me and the house at this time if that makes sense?

I’m trying to be patient with both him and myself while also finding some balance so neither of us burns out

Has anyone else experienced something similar with the newborn stage or with their partner struggling emotionally after baby arrived?

I haven’t had that wave on emotion people talk about after birth but I am starting to get a little tearful tonight I only got 4hrs last night but I did nap for 1.5-2 ish hrs this afternoon

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