Do you have any support network?

Who would you say is your in support network and do you feel adequately supported?

I look around at our neighbors and our kid’s friends families and they all seem to have so many people to support and love them!

Meanwhile we don’t have any family support (both have parents married to each other but they are not involved in our/our kids lives) and making friends has been changing.

I know friends are harder to make as an adult. It also seems like people who already have friends/family don’t want to be around people who don’t.

Thoughts? What have you experienced/observed?

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All of our relatives live several states away, the closest one is a 12 hr drive, so while they are supportive from afar, they’re not really here to support in person.

And all of my friends have littles/newborns of their own so I don’t feel like I can lean on them for help because they have enough on their plates as it is.

I have a dysfunctional unhealthy family. No emotional intelligence and when their feelings are hurt they are disrespectful. They live 23 minutes away….. my mother told me she was done trying to have a relationship with me because I’m painting her as a bad person cause I spoke the truth. And she wants to be able to come over whenever she wants and take my kids. No respect to boundaries. So there’s that. My dad is is Georgia, child’s father/spouse lives up the street. I have one friend that’s emotional support. Basically building a community/family.

My family is very dysfunctional and I don’t have support from them at all. My MIL is a wonderful support system and I’m so very lucky to have her in my life. Shes the best 🥰. Outside of that I can say I have a truly supportive work life. My coworkers and boss are genuinely some of my biggest support people and cheerleaders. I’ve also collected a lot of friends over the years. Some are better friends than others but most of them I know I can count on if my house was burning down. I have a couple best friends who live locally and a few from back home that i speak to daily and see often. Or as often as i can for the out of state ones. But also keep in mind that I’m in my 40’s and have adult children and have cultivated the amount of friends i have over 20 years. It doesn’t happen overnight!

Yeah got alot support by family and also some friends i made while my boy was in nicu at Cambridge

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1. Me and my baby dad are in a relationship he goes to work 40+ hours a week and I’m a stay at home I am grateful for that but I do wish I could have some free time away from my daughter and be working as well as making more money. My partner doesn’t help pay for anything for my daughter or for me. Including being able to and do stuff. Plus after work and the weekends he’s really tired so we don’t ever do anything as a family. I’m struggling with the amount of money I get off universal credit.

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