would you rather...?

1. if you hand wash dishes: never having to do it again
if you have a dish washer: never having to use it again
2. never having to do laundry agai. (washing drying and folding)
3. never having to clean bathrooms again
4. never having to vacuum/mop again

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I don't know what to do! Advice needed

My son (just turned 4) has bad social anxiety around other children. Particularly ones his age. We pulled him out of a nursery as he was incredibly unhappy and distressed there. He goes to preschool and he is happier there. That social anxiety still stands and just as he was becoming confident. A little girl started after Christmas, she has been pulling his hair, dragging him out of the quiet corner and even pulling him off his potty. He has his own toilet area as he doesn't like the preschool toilets. He used to use them until this girl started and we've had a massive stetback with everything. He once came home with scratches all across his stomach from one of her 'episodes' the teacher called it.

They have three teachers in the preschool setting so why is a little girl bullying my son? They will go to the same school in September.

My question is how can I help my son build on this social anxiety if he is a victim of this aggressive behaviour at preschool?

We take him to parks, play centres and such. He seems happy enough once he is settled there.

Government nursery funding

Hi I have been told if we are claiming UC we cannot claim the government funding for nursery care, is this correct? 🤔

I am working the UC just tops my wage up.

Thank you from a very confused first time mum ☺️

Government funding hours

Can I ask, does anyone know much regarding this?
I’ve been told I’m allowed the hours for nursery but a friend has said that even if one week (say we are on holiday) we are still charged/using some of those hours? Even tho she’s not going to be in nursery?!

They have said I can have the hours over 32 weeks, I thought it was 42 weeks?

Not interested in anything

I'm really struggling my 2 year old daughter is not interested in anything. She don't like been outdoor or indoors I'm struggling to keep her entertained.
She has no interest in toys either.
I've taken her so many places and she just wants to leave its like its boring to her as much as I try and make it fun.
Dancing is the only thing she will do for a short time.
I've spoke to health visitor and they didn't seem to be concerned. But I am as I don't know what to do anymore.

Safe space?

My divorce was finalized 5 months ago with a man I have been with for 11 years and share 3 children. I put on a tough face but I am heartbroken and not taking it well. Neither one of us wanted to separate, but neither one of us did the work to fix it. Now that our divorce is official, I still can’t shake the feeling that it was a mistake. He is my best friend and I love him dearly. Do I tell him? Or continue to cry myself to sleep every night? How would I even approach him with this information?

Am I sane or crazy, I'm sure it's both 😆

My husband and I have been together for 10+ years and we finally got our little baby after years of waiting. I changed my lifestyle a lot, scaling way back at work to only a few hours a day and staying home full-time to take care of our baby. He has moved up on his field with a recent promotion and works outside the home. Anyway, it drives me NUTS when he can't handle his first toddler meltdown experience of the evening, or if I ask him to take care of a poopy diaper.. his excuse is always that he doesn't want our kid "mad at him".
I understand wanting happy moments, we all do. And I do everything I can to time naps so he's got a happy kid greeting him at the door as often as possible. But the dinner hour or pre-bed meltdowns still happen 🤷🤷
I really think big emotions just turn my lumberjack into a field mouse 🙈