I don't know what to do! Advice needed
My son (just turned 4) has bad social anxiety around other children. Particularly ones his age. We pulled him out of a nursery as he was incredibly unhappy and distressed there. He goes to preschool and he is happier there. That social anxiety still stands and just as he was becoming confident. A little girl started after Christmas, she has been pulling his hair, dragging him out of the quiet corner and even pulling him off his potty. He has his own toilet area as he doesn't like the preschool toilets. He used to use them until this girl started and we've had a massive stetback with everything. He once came home with scratches all across his stomach from one of her 'episodes' the teacher called it.
They have three teachers in the preschool setting so why is a little girl bullying my son? They will go to the same school in September.
My question is how can I help my son build on this social anxiety if he is a victim of this aggressive behaviour at preschool?
We take him to parks, play centres and such. He seems happy enough once he is settled there.
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Have you talked to the school and this little girls parents? Can you set up a one on one playdate with the little girl so your baby gets to see her in a better setting(she needs to change too.) I don’t know I only have a 3 month old but the idea of that happening to my baby boils my blood. So as an outsider I am asking is it your baby that needs to change or the setting he’s in? It’s not his fault he’s getting bullied and I think he might be young to understand
I am pregnant with my first so I can’t speak from a parenting perspective but as someone who worked in a kindergarten I can confidently say that continuous behaviour like that shouldn’t be happening if the teachers were more on top of things. There’s a certain child to teacher ratio set in place to ensure all kids are supervised properly and behaviour like this should be dealt with and prevented. I hope your little one is taken care of better, that really shouldn’t be happening. Yes you get your occasional fight and disagreement between kids but shouldn’t be ongoing unless those in charge are failing to step in.
The one I worked at was 3 teachers and 16 kids in the class. Which was still difficult, I do think there is a shortage of staff when it comes to kindergarten/preschool but even then you have to learn to be aware of what’s going on in the classroom. I’d put in a complaint with the director, and if it’s not dealt with possibly consider putting him in another one if that’s an option. That says more about their attentiveness than the need for more teachers.
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