Is this ok for a wedding for the mother of the groom?

My mum wants to wear this to my brothers wedding. I told her no she will end up on one of the my mother in law did what pages 😂 What are your thoughts? Am I being harsh?

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Absolutely not 🥴, she may get bitched about all day 🤣
Or maybe if she asks the bride and she gives her blessing, but I definitely wouldn’t lol

Absolutely not🫠

If you have to ask, that usually means no!!

Absolutely not

Your mom should ask the bride. She will get an answer. Some brides dont care if the mom of the bride/groom is in beige/ivory/silver outfits.

Um… no way… too close to the bride! She could always ask but I think this is a no go

I’m with you. Anything white/cream just instantly screams ‘Look at me, I’m a jealous MIL who can’t handle the fact another woman is stealing the attention of my son’

It can’t be that hard to just wear something with colour!

Unless she’s been asked to wear white, no ma’am.

Nah cause imagine you had green in your wedding… this outfit is literally white and green. Is your mil trying to get married again or what? 😐 if you told her no, and she still wears it, I’d literally tell her to leave bc what? You’re not ab to ruin MY moment.

She should just ask the bride

Um, it's white, so obviously not

I would say no, but you should always check the bride. Some brides are OK with the moms or grandmother’s wearing white ivory or cream.

Nope! This is common knowledge. She ought to know better.

No and tbf worst thing to do is give the dil reasons not to like you.

Will she get mistaken for the bride in this? No. Should anyone but the bride unless gotten the okay wear white? Also no. What is wrong with these mothers that think wearing white is acceptable?? Don’t even bother asking the bride this is a common sense thing.

I feel like this is a brides hen party or or evening do look do they do it in another colour because the style is fine it’s just the colour in my opinion

Does this come in another color? Its lovely but not in white at a wedding.

No no no 😂 my wedding is in 2 years and if mum or my fiancé mum wore this, they’d be escorted out 😂

It’s lovely, but wrong colour!

My mum wore a jumpsuit to my wedding and looked fabulous - this is stunning but the colour is an absolute no x

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I’m a bit confused with what I should be doing with feeding my 9 month old (he just turned 9 months) He’s only gained 500g since 6 months old, he’s very very active. He’s crawling, standing up with support and started to stand without support, he’s walking with support (push walker, holding him or furniture) so he’s not tired or lethargic, he is a very healthy and energetic boy.

I was under the impression that at this age, the focus should be exposure to different foods and texture, focusing on chewing and overall just learning how to eat. And that their main nutrition still comes from breastmilk until they’re 1 year old.

I usually feed my son 3 meals a day, largest meal being lunch and a smaller meal for dinner to avoid belly pains at night. A typical meal would be a toast with nut butter for breakfast or porridge, meatballs/chicken with some sort of potatoes or salmon with rice or vegetables. Dinner would be something small like corn or hummus with bread. He’s still feeding before meals as we were told to feed before meals. He’s breastfed and I’m breastfeeding on demand which feels like consistently throughout to the day!

I had a weigh in appointment this morning with the HV and she was very judgmental — she asked me what solids I give my son and when I explained to her, she immediately said “why are you not feeding him?” Which was honestly so heartbreaking to hear because I’m doing my best to make sure I feed my son correctly (he’s allergic to cow’s milk and egg so I go out my way to prepare his food)

Anyways, sorry for the rant! I guess I just want to know what I should be doing — and if I’m doing anything wrong? I’d love to have any advice.

Is my marriage salvageable?

For years iv felt emotionally alone.
Both of my labor & births, he may as well not be there. He didnt come near me or support me in any way.
All we do is bicker now. He complains constantly about my mood and how depressing I am to be around. Im exhausted. Our second baby has never been a good sleeper. He started to sleep through but has now got a cold so the oast 2 nights have been horrendous. So much so I missed my first day back to work after maternity leave as my day begun at 2:30am.

Im drained, im also chronically ill with an auto immune disease, im facing new health issues with prolonged menstrual bleeding. I have bled for 50% of the time over the past 5m. Im being sent for an urgent scan which was arranged and booked for just 3 days after my appointment. After that appointment he didn't ask how it went, when I eventually told him 2 days before the scan that I was being sent for one, his main concern was who will watch the kids cause hes working. Not why or what or how am I feeling about it. Im so miserable atm. He tells me im dramatic, im depressing, im a quitter blah blah. I have PND / PNA im so not okay atm. He knows this. But dismisses my feelings and my health issues all the time.
Iv never felt so alone.

Am I overreacting about this morning?

I wasn’t feeling well today, so I asked my husband to take care of the baby in the morning. Normally the baby wakes up around 7, but my husband got him around 7:45. I got up around 8:30 and went to check on them. The baby was still in his pajamas, his diaper hadn’t been changed, and it was completely full(wee). My husband was making breakfast, but he couldn’t get the baby to eat.

I had literally just gotten up, and seeing everything like that annoyed me because my husband was originally supposed to be off today. Then he told me he actually had some important meetings and needed to start work at 9. So it suddenly felt like everything was still falling on me anyway. I got a little passive aggressive and said, “Fine, I’ll feed him,” and of course the baby ate with me because I turn it into a game and all that.

Then we started arguing after a few comments back and forth.

On the days your partner takes the baby in the morning, do they usually change them, get them dressed, and handle breakfast too? Because normally I do all of that every single morning. The only times I really expect my husband to fully take over are when I’m sick.

Is this petty?

My partner (and his 9 yo son) never take their dirty tissues out their pockets. Sons, I empty. Partners I used to, however I told him repeatedly ‘take issues out else it messes all the other clothes’ ‘yea yeah’ was the reply I got.

Well his shorts have been in the wash basket now for 2 weeks as there’s dirty issues in the pockets. The rest of the washing has all been done.

Am I being petty? Should I just take it out. Hoping he’ll soon ask about them and I’ll say ‘there’s tissue in pockets’ 😂😂

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I’m scared for my husband to go back to work …

FTM to an amazing little girl who will be 4 weeks on sunday !

My husband has been my rock, my solid foundation for a month whilst on paternity leave but he has to go back to work on Monday and I’m frightened …

Im excited to be a mumma but at the same time I’m petrified to be alone with her, I keep thinking of the What ifs ???

What if she has one of her (I’m tired) crying sessions and I cant console her ?

What if ? What if ? what if ?

Theres a lot going on in my mind right now and its causing anxiety

At what stage does it get easier ?

How early do we potty train?

My little girl is one and I’m keen to get her potty trained sooner rather than later, But she’s in nursery so will they rather her be in nappies still?