Anyone else struggle socially at mum groups?
I’m quite an introverted person, and even before becoming a mum I already struggled socially, even back in my home country in Asia. Being new to the UK has made it even more challenging socially. I can speak English, but sometimes I still struggle with knowing the right words to say or what topics to talk about, which makes me feel even more self-conscious.
Now that I’m a mum, I really want to become more social for the sake of my baby. I don’t want him to grow up feeling socially awkward or shy like me. I’ve tried meeting up with my antenatal group, but I didn’t really connect with them. I also tried a church mums group and felt the same way.
Next month I’m planning to attend a sensory class and I’m hoping that might help. Has anyone else felt like this? Any tips or advice would really mean a lot.
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I feel exactly this!!! I’m lucky in the sense that his Dad is extroverted enough for the both of us but I too should make more of an effort to change my house hermit ways. I don’t want him to wonder why I have no friends :(
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Yes! I'm not originally from the UK and even though I had my son almost 2 years ago I can't make Mum friends. I find it super hard, I do baby groups but I find that the women there already have their groups and talk to each other but none ever talk to me even though I try. I only had one playdate through peanut but unfortunately she was extremely judgemental when it came to me not using "proper British terms" and even though I checked in with her when he daughter was unwell ... She blocked me for no reason. We didn't have any controversial talks during the playdate, no difference in opinions... Nothing. I believed it was a great playdate but I guess not to her. So I completely understand
Yes, I can relate. I’ve joined several mom groups online and in person. They are hit or miss, it takes a while to find a match. I encourage you to keep trying! One I went to recently was a brunch and I was both excited and nervous! At first I felt so awkward, it was my first event with them and initially others seemed to know each other and while we were waiting for our table everyone broke out into little groups of 2 or 3 and I felt like this odd person out just looking around and fidgeting while everyone else was talking to each other. But once we sat down, I was able to chat more with the ladies and at the end of the day was so glad I went and stayed. I went to another event with that group since then and enjoyed it and felt more comfortable. I understand about wanting to be more social for your baby and I feel the same way! Keep trying and see if you start feeling more comfortable. It takes time!
I’m such an introvert when we go baby groups I sit on my own 🤣🤣
It is abit awkward sometimes but I’ve been doing it for years and my son is an extrovert he isn’t shy at all I think because we just go to things all the time
If you learn how to be uncomfortable you’ll go a long way lol
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