Second time mums - i need some help!

My husband will be away tomorrow and friday night for work and I'll have my 3 year old and 9 week old on my own with no support.

The nursery drop off and pick up for my toddler should be fine as i have done it a couple of times now but I'm so worried about the evenings. Their bedtimes clash so I'm worried about how to handle it, especially if my toddler comes home with tantrums!

My husband normally puts my toddler to sleep at 7pm and I do the baby which takes 6pm-7.45pm. Got no idea how I'll manage to get her ready for bed and read her books etc with a screaming baby in my arms?!

Any advice please?

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I am in the exact same boat except monday to friday. Message me if you like x

I have a 6 years old so our bedtime is a bit later. Not sure if you breastfeed or not. I do. So I do toothbrush, toilet book and bed for mh 6 years old. Baby is either eating, burping, sleeping. Whichever she is doing she is in the bed with us. X

I tackle this from the nursery pick up before any of them get too ratty. I get the toddler bathed changed ready for bed as soon as we get in. Then he has a snack and plays whilst I settle baby down. Then brush his teeth and we go to bed. I take monitor for each of them when settling the other one. I also make sure baby doesnt nap too late in afternoon and give him lots of play time before bed so he is shattered and doesnt take ages x

How about having baby in carrier? As I find that helps as baby is close to you all the time and calm. X

I agree. Try and have dinner ready cooked , get 3 yo home, dinner and a bit of tv like a Julia Donaldson film and then showered/quick bath and changed in pj's. Use bribes lol so if they get out the bath nicely they can have supper and a treat like choc spread on toast or small bowl of ice cream. Then teeth brushed. Feed baby when and where you can.. you could read a max of 2 books lol to the 3 yo in your bed whilst you feed baby. Then toddler into own bed x

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