Guilt

I’m having my first I’m a terrible mom moment, I am so upset. My baby is 5 days old, he has been eating really well and is already back up to his birthweight. I set timers to make sure he’s eating often enough, try to catch him in the early signs of hunger vs him getting to the crying stages but tonight I guess I turned my alarm off in my sleep and he never woke up crying or anything?? He went at least 6 hours before I woke up and saw the time and freaked out. And it’s possible it was closer to 8 hours I can’t remember if I last fed him at 9p or 11p now. I feel sick to my stomach, my poor baby, he is fed and falling back asleep now but I feel horrible, I wish he had cried or something, that seems like such an insane stretch of time for how young he is. I keep crying I’m so mad at myself. T

in our community

TV turned on at Chikdminders

I just had my furst settling session with a childminder snd she had Cocomelon turned on. She said she has solar panels so that TV stays on the whole time. obviously I asked her to turn it off but I am sure she will keep it on when i am not there. I am surprised that this is acceptable? How would you handle this

Out and about

Right ive come to realise ive been thinking about this consistently for a while so I just want to see what everyone else thinks.. since my LO was a few months old I have done everything with him, I live in a warm country and im barely ever at home because Im always out and about, hes 6.5 mo now and I dont know if ive been over doing it being out with him all the time, im worried its too much and he should be in the calm consistent environment of home and maybe I messed up the first period of his life by not prioritising making my life all based on him.

My partner thinks its all really good for him and im just worrying, for context my LO is super chill, hitting all his age appropriate milestones and really giggly and happy. So maybe i am overthinking it but I just want to know if theres a limit...

Should they have told us they were ill?

My in laws were ill when we were due to go to visit them (approx 1hr away) and didn’t tell us. Now my 4 month old is really struggling with a cold and I hate seeing her this way. I’m so angry with them but I don’t know if I’m being dramatic because of the extra sleep deprivation that comes with a poorly baby.

Need advice…

Me and my husband have been together for 5 years now we have two kids the youngest just turned 1. For the past few months he’ll come home from work and just go to the toilet and seat on the toilet for hours I mean like he gets home at 5:30pm and he’s in there till like 7 the earliest. Today he came at 5 and it’s 8:56pm rn and he’s till on the toilet scrolling through ig I can hear the reels playing than he’s gonna go shower for another hour. I feel so angry. I’ve spoken to him so many times to stop doing that cause the kids will be waiting to hang with him and he doesn’t care. Before we use to wait for him to shower before we eat dinner now we just eat without him. Then he’ll come out saying I’m sorry I didn’t realize it was that late. I’m so tired and over it. I feel so over him I can’t even feel any sexual desires towards him. Every time I see him now I wish he’d just go away I hate hearing the “I’m sorry”

Potty Training

PLEASE HELP 🙏 🙏 🙏
I've posted before about potty training, but at this point I don't know what to do. My daughter won't keep her diaper on at night. I have her in pull ups during the day and diapers at night. She most of the time is dry through the night but when she takes a bit too long to go to bed by herself, thats when she pees before passing out. Whats worse is she is a night pooper. I've tried backward zippers, clips, buttons, tight pants, pull ups. They all end up being off. But tonight, was the worst, and basically my last straw. I usually catch it before anything happens, but this time, I didn't.... I go into her room, diaper off (empty) shit EVERYWHERE. Please🙏 What do I do, and how do I potty train? She knows what the word potty means, she knows where it is. She sits on it every morning and after naps and on and off during the day. So she knows what it is. People keep telling me to have her say it by teaching her the word, she knows the word but she is non-verbal. It is so much harder (I ENVY moms who have non-verbal children and are still doing it) She can't even tell me when she's hungry. I know there are non-verbal moms in here. PLEASE advice or tips ANYTHING. I'm so done and exhausted. And I've been told just to have her around in underwear. But its hard to find underwear that fits her because she is on the smaller side. Plus I have fake carpet, the shitty pull up tile carpet. I can't clean it. What do I do?

My son is 3. Is it too early to start sports to get off screentime?

I'm a single mom not by choice and I'm frilklen exhausted. If I don't take care of my health right now I don't know how I'm going to make it through each day because every day I am just burnt out. My son is in daycare 5 days a week but there's still so much to do all day long and I'm just really worried that when he gets home he always wants to screen time and sometimes I'm so exhausted that I give it to him and try to muster up the strength to limit it so that we can do other things in the house if we're homebound. I try to take him out every day after daycare but I'm just wondering on average like what are you supposed to do what is everybody's schedule look like especially people who want to participate their kids in activities that override the need for screen time. I have friends who are wealthier than me I'm very poor right now but my wealthy friends say that their kids are in hockey and piano and all of this and when they get home they just collapse and start the day again the next day. I know there's research out there saying that it's not good to overpack things for your kids which I don't intend to do because I do believe rest in downtime is very good for brain development and inner peace but I can't help but wonder if hockey is the right answer. I was told hockey is really great expensive and a huge commitment but it teaches kids how to just show up for life and all that stuff