2 under Two!! 😳

My April baby just turned one last month, and I just found out I’m pregnant 🤪 It was also right after I decided my relationship wasn’t healthy anymore, well it never really was, but silly me kept hanging on to hope or that he’d “get it” at some point, but I’m so shut down and can’t talk to him about anything without it turning into multiple hours of lecturing, bringing up everything he’s ever been hurt by and throwing jabs at my character. So now I have to decide to either keep the relationship going for the logistical help, while keeping communication limited, or if I should still end it for my mental health and be pregnant with a 1 year old alone. I have no idea how I’ll handle this crazy toddler energy along with a new born by myself! He’s not the worst, I’m just not happy and feel like I can’t be myself or at peace when he’s around. He has several kids with other women (should have been my immediate NO to having kids with him 🙄) but I know if I end the relationship he’ll basically disappear from our kids life too. Ugh 😭

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Breast feeding 🤱

Breast feeding mommies where you at I need some advice.

Boundaries

What do you do if you have boundaries and your partner has none at all?

I have lots of boundaries/rules with our baby- and with myself postpartum but my husband disagrees with all of them. I’ve tried to be reasonable and meet him half way but he refuses to. And so I feel helpless. For example, if I say no to anybody kissing our baby- but my husband says yes people feel free to do so. And I can’t stop this. We live with his parents so it’s been a nightmare. I can set a boundary with them but then he will say he doesn’t mind so they follow what he wants.

He’ll say as it’s his daughter too he doesn’t need to follow any rules. He can let who he wants hold her, kiss her, leave her with unsupervised etc even if it makes me uncomfortable. I don’t know what to do. I’ve started working part time again so boundaries are more important than ever as I’m not with her 24/7 anymore.

My FIL is particularly disrespectful of my wishes. He changes my baby’s meals even because he doesn’t believe she is getting the right nutrients! ( I have her in a specific plan because of her chronic constipation). And is always invading my privacy. I’m not comfortable with him at all. He touches my daughter with his dirty hands all the time and if I tell him not too, he says his son says it’s fine. Or if I don’t want them holding her, they’ll say their son has given them permission so they will etc it has been a thousand things. I’m wfh but supposed to be returning part time in office but know I don’t have the trust to do so.

Do I have no say? I feel so trapped. My husband has stated repeatedly he doesn’t care about my feelings on it and his parents should be able to do whatever they want with their grandchild. Honestly, I want to leave him but cannot imagine co parenting with him (and his parents) it would be torturous.

Really struggling

My baby is 3 weeks old and I have not had at least 1 hours uninterrupted sleep in the night, he sleeps in the day but at the most inconvenient times like when I have to pick up my daughter from school, so even then I can’t get a good sleep. I don’t know what it is, he drinks well and has gained weight so I know it’s not the feeding, he is always clean… I’m genuinely struggling and do not know how to get him to sleep more than 1 hour at night. I’m being interrupted every 40 mins and he just wants to be on the breast, not even drinking just staying there 😅 … my first was sooo easy, she was sleeping a good stretch at 1 months old and I never struggled with her, this is so new to me, any advice is welcome

Fussy feeds?! Help!

My LG is 3.3 months old. She has been a fussy feeder since about 2 months old. She’s is mainly breastfed but will have one bottle in the evening sometimes if she needs it while I spend some time with her sister. (Her dad usually feeds her this).

Her latch has never been great since birth. I’ve tried breastfeeding support sessions, different positions etc.. Her latch still isn’t great. HV and GP not worried because she’s putting on good weight & having enough wet / poo nappies.

She has been to the GP about this recently and they reckon she has silent reflux. We’ve tried the infant Gaviscon that they prescribed for a couple weeks and it’s made no difference. I don’t believe it is that. Rather maybe something else? I have tried tummy massages before feeds too, didn’t help.

She gets so frustrated at both the breast and the bottle. Like pure rage. I’ve messed about with different teats for the bottle and that has also made no difference.
On the breast she will fuss before she’s even on it. And the times when she doesn’t she will suckle for a minute then pull off in frustration.

I was worried it was my milk supply but I exclusively pumped one day when I had a stomach bug and I managed to pump at least 150ml every 2/3 hours.

She is the same with bottles. She will cry before the bottle even touches her mouth sometimes. Then sometimes she will have a bit of the bottle then become fussy with it. I have tried many different types and brands of bottles too.

The only time she is not fussy feeding is when she wakes up for a night feed once or twice in the night. She feeds great and goes back to sleep.

I tried feeding/ nursing her in the bedroom and make it quiet and dark but she will still fuss.

I am honestly stumped for ideas now so I’m hoping one of you lovely ladies might have some advice.

I am so close to giving up breastfeeding because she keeps clamping down on my nipple with her gums so hard in frustration.

I’ve tried offering cold teething toys too and felt her gums. I don’t believe it’s early teething.

Pls send help 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫 before I loose my mind!!!!

How do you do it

My little boy is 13 months old, is so cuddly and we still breastfeed. I've just found out I'm pregnant (still early) just extremely overwhelmed!
What makes me nervous is I want my little boy to breastfeed as long as he wants and we currently still cosleep. I love cosleeping but how woukd i do it with him and a newborn! I am introducing sleeping in his bed tonight, but I'm just nervous, I don't want him to feel pushed out or jealous.

Due date yesterday - symptoms start then stop with sleep?!

It’s my first baby and my due date was yesterday.

I’ve had some contractions, cramps, mucus plug loss for the past few days, but every time I go to sleep, symptoms stop. Should I stay awake? I feel like I’m interrupting the process, but I also feel my body needs the rest.

Anyone with similar experiences, let me know. It’s hard to stay patient right now, but am trusting as much as I can.