Fussy feeds?! Help!

My LG is 3.3 months old. She has been a fussy feeder since about 2 months old. She’s is mainly breastfed but will have one bottle in the evening sometimes if she needs it while I spend some time with her sister. (Her dad usually feeds her this).

Her latch has never been great since birth. I’ve tried breastfeeding support sessions, different positions etc.. Her latch still isn’t great. HV and GP not worried because she’s putting on good weight & having enough wet / poo nappies.

She has been to the GP about this recently and they reckon she has silent reflux. We’ve tried the infant Gaviscon that they prescribed for a couple weeks and it’s made no difference. I don’t believe it is that. Rather maybe something else? I have tried tummy massages before feeds too, didn’t help.

She gets so frustrated at both the breast and the bottle. Like pure rage. I’ve messed about with different teats for the bottle and that has also made no difference.
On the breast she will fuss before she’s even on it. And the times when she doesn’t she will suckle for a minute then pull off in frustration.

I was worried it was my milk supply but I exclusively pumped one day when I had a stomach bug and I managed to pump at least 150ml every 2/3 hours.

She is the same with bottles. She will cry before the bottle even touches her mouth sometimes. Then sometimes she will have a bit of the bottle then become fussy with it. I have tried many different types and brands of bottles too.

The only time she is not fussy feeding is when she wakes up for a night feed once or twice in the night. She feeds great and goes back to sleep.

I tried feeding/ nursing her in the bedroom and make it quiet and dark but she will still fuss.

I am honestly stumped for ideas now so I’m hoping one of you lovely ladies might have some advice.

I am so close to giving up breastfeeding because she keeps clamping down on my nipple with her gums so hard in frustration.

I’ve tried offering cold teething toys too and felt her gums. I don’t believe it’s early teething.

Pls send help 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫 before I loose my mind!!!!

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Has she been checked for tongue tie?

My little boy is bottle fed but was like this, he had silent reflux. Doctor prescribed Carobel and he has been drinking all his bottles ever since. Now at the moment he is bitting the teats and chewing his hands so I do really think he is teething early. I have just been offering him teething toys and putting the teat in the fridge before he feed so it numbs his gums a bit. This is probably no help but I feel you!

Okay my baby did this exact same thing, she's now 17 weeks and has improved immensely. My girl did this too (I never took her to the GP or health visitor however). It sounds like "Nursing Strike."
Basically they just get so overwhelmed and overstimulated that they refuse or fuss sooo much on the breast or bottle. They're becoming more aware of their surroundings and everything is interesting but it's overwhelming. That's why her nursing at night is easier because I assume it's lower lighter, she's sleepy, and/or a sound machine is on maybe.

When my baby did this it was soo disheartening and tbh annoying lol. I wanted to give up breastfeeding because it felt like every time I tried to nurse her she would scream/fuss/cry. But yeah basically it's a phase and they'll grow out of it 🤪 But yeah, The Nursing Strike, was very annoying lol

Things I did to help ^^ Lower the lighting a bit. Turn off background noise. Have less distractions. Try feeding them when they wake or just before going to sleep so they're sleepy or rested. If this isn't possible since you have another young child then just endure it, they're having plenty of wet/dirty nappies, and good weight gain so nothing to worry about 😌

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