Do you shame women who choose to cover when they breastfeed?

I see a lot of comments on social media that make covering your boob when you nurse seem like it's anti woman. Like we are being set back. I don't want my boobs out. That's all. I support you if you get yours out. Heck I'll help your baby latch if you're having a hard time.

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We can't win.

I believe they should cover

I think people should cover or atleast be discreet but if they weren't I wouldn't shame them or look at them funny.

Damned if you do, damned if ya don’t, I swear.

No shaming women PERIOD.

I believe they should cover if that’s what they want to do and not cover if that’s what they prefer 🤷‍♀️ it’s not myyyy busineesssss

And then we have the comments in this very thread saying women “should” cover up 🤦‍♀️ truly, we cannot win.

I don't know if I've ever witnessed a woman NOT covering in public... Idk, I don't make a point of looking that closely. Not my body or my business. 🤷

feeding how you like and being supportive of other people’s choice is the right way to be in this situation

people who say you should cover are weird and a victim to societies perverted views of women’s body’s

people who say you shouldn’t cover are also weird and a victim to forgetting women have choice and that covering isn’t “anti-women”

as mothers and women we should support choice for everyone on how they feel comfortable feeding

Women should feed their baby how they please. Period. I mean boobs are literally everywhere. But when it's not in a sexual way than few here think we should cover. Pleeeeease 🤧🤧🤧🫠🫠🫠

I've heard people say you shouldn't breast feed publicly at all. which is crazy because you can eat a sandwich publicly. Why can't a baby who needs to eat every few hours eat in public?

I covered because my girl would get distracted

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Boundaries

What do you do if you have boundaries and your partner has none at all?

I have lots of boundaries/rules with our baby- and with myself postpartum but my husband disagrees with all of them. I’ve tried to be reasonable and meet him half way but he refuses to. And so I feel helpless. For example, if I say no to anybody kissing our baby- but my husband says yes people feel free to do so. And I can’t stop this. We live with his parents so it’s been a nightmare. I can set a boundary with them but then he will say he doesn’t mind so they follow what he wants.

He’ll say as it’s his daughter too he doesn’t need to follow any rules. He can let who he wants hold her, kiss her, leave her with unsupervised etc even if it makes me uncomfortable. I don’t know what to do. I’ve started working part time again so boundaries are more important than ever as I’m not with her 24/7 anymore.

My FIL is particularly disrespectful of my wishes. He changes my baby’s meals even because he doesn’t believe she is getting the right nutrients! ( I have her in a specific plan because of her chronic constipation). And is always invading my privacy. I’m not comfortable with him at all. He touches my daughter with his dirty hands all the time and if I tell him not too, he says his son says it’s fine. Or if I don’t want them holding her, they’ll say their son has given them permission so they will etc it has been a thousand things. I’m wfh but supposed to be returning part time in office but know I don’t have the trust to do so.

Do I have no say? I feel so trapped. My husband has stated repeatedly he doesn’t care about my feelings on it and his parents should be able to do whatever they want with their grandchild. Honestly, I want to leave him but cannot imagine co parenting with him (and his parents) it would be torturous.

Breast feeding 🤱

Breast feeding mommies where you at I need some advice.

Really struggling

My baby is 3 weeks old and I have not had at least 1 hours uninterrupted sleep in the night, he sleeps in the day but at the most inconvenient times like when I have to pick up my daughter from school, so even then I can’t get a good sleep. I don’t know what it is, he drinks well and has gained weight so I know it’s not the feeding, he is always clean… I’m genuinely struggling and do not know how to get him to sleep more than 1 hour at night. I’m being interrupted every 40 mins and he just wants to be on the breast, not even drinking just staying there 😅 … my first was sooo easy, she was sleeping a good stretch at 1 months old and I never struggled with her, this is so new to me, any advice is welcome

Fussy feeds?! Help!

My LG is 3.3 months old. She has been a fussy feeder since about 2 months old. She’s is mainly breastfed but will have one bottle in the evening sometimes if she needs it while I spend some time with her sister. (Her dad usually feeds her this).

Her latch has never been great since birth. I’ve tried breastfeeding support sessions, different positions etc.. Her latch still isn’t great. HV and GP not worried because she’s putting on good weight & having enough wet / poo nappies.

She has been to the GP about this recently and they reckon she has silent reflux. We’ve tried the infant Gaviscon that they prescribed for a couple weeks and it’s made no difference. I don’t believe it is that. Rather maybe something else? I have tried tummy massages before feeds too, didn’t help.

She gets so frustrated at both the breast and the bottle. Like pure rage. I’ve messed about with different teats for the bottle and that has also made no difference.
On the breast she will fuss before she’s even on it. And the times when she doesn’t she will suckle for a minute then pull off in frustration.

I was worried it was my milk supply but I exclusively pumped one day when I had a stomach bug and I managed to pump at least 150ml every 2/3 hours.

She is the same with bottles. She will cry before the bottle even touches her mouth sometimes. Then sometimes she will have a bit of the bottle then become fussy with it. I have tried many different types and brands of bottles too.

The only time she is not fussy feeding is when she wakes up for a night feed once or twice in the night. She feeds great and goes back to sleep.

I tried feeding/ nursing her in the bedroom and make it quiet and dark but she will still fuss.

I am honestly stumped for ideas now so I’m hoping one of you lovely ladies might have some advice.

I am so close to giving up breastfeeding because she keeps clamping down on my nipple with her gums so hard in frustration.

I’ve tried offering cold teething toys too and felt her gums. I don’t believe it’s early teething.

Pls send help 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫 before I loose my mind!!!!

How do you do it

My little boy is 13 months old, is so cuddly and we still breastfeed. I've just found out I'm pregnant (still early) just extremely overwhelmed!
What makes me nervous is I want my little boy to breastfeed as long as he wants and we currently still cosleep. I love cosleeping but how woukd i do it with him and a newborn! I am introducing sleeping in his bed tonight, but I'm just nervous, I don't want him to feel pushed out or jealous.

Due date yesterday - symptoms start then stop with sleep?!

It’s my first baby and my due date was yesterday.

I’ve had some contractions, cramps, mucus plug loss for the past few days, but every time I go to sleep, symptoms stop. Should I stay awake? I feel like I’m interrupting the process, but I also feel my body needs the rest.

Anyone with similar experiences, let me know. It’s hard to stay patient right now, but am trusting as much as I can.