Early risers

My 8 month old keeps waking up at 5.20am thinking this is a good time to start the day 😓 she goes to bed at 6.45pm and we did have about a week of her sleeping through until that time but recently she’s waking up at 1.30, 3.30 and then wide awake at 5.20. I ebf but I don’t feed her through the night, able to put the dummy in and rub her back. I can’t let her cry too much at 5.20 as she’s next door to my toddler and I don’t want to wake him up šŸ™ˆShe naps in the morning 9.30-11ish and then 2.45-3.30ish. Is it just a phase?! 😓😓

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I read that you want to leave them in the cot until the desired wake up time, because if you get them too early it will reinforce that that’s an ok time to wake up. My baby was getting up 5:50 and 6:20 and I’m like ā€œabsolutely notā€ šŸ˜‚. I want him to wake up at 7 at least. So I’d just let him stay in the cot until 7 and then come get him. And 2 weeks later, he’s waking up early, realizing it, and then going back to sleep. Can be hard to do if they’re crying tho. He generally wakes up happy and babbling and just chills by himself for a bit. He will stand when he’s ready.

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I think she needs more wake window before bed, maybe she doesn’t have enough sleep drive to sleep past 5.20 and I think her bedtime could be too early - but I’m not an expert! My LG has 4.5 wake window before bed and goes down at 7:30ish, and sleeps mostly through until 6:30ish, I say this but this morning she woke up at 5:45 šŸ˜®ā€šŸ’Ø but those morning bout to happen anyway at some point lol. How much day sleep is she having ?

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My 8 month is the exact same! Only In the last week or so. 5:15am wake up this morn and a feed in the night

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