My baby is currently 3 months old, and still showing a strong preference for mum. I'm exclusively breastfeeding, so completely expect to do all the feeds, but our baby also seems to need me to soothe and settle for naps.
My husband has always been keen to be a hands-on dad, but he's finding it quite demoralising that our baby often cried when left with him, and hasnt settled to sleep on dad since the early newborn days.
I left the baby with dad for a hour yesterday evening, while I had a doctor's appt, and apparently he scream-cri3d the whole time. My husband is feeling very discouraged that the baby doesn't seem to love/trust him, and I would really appreciate being able to have a break sometimes and leave the baby with his dad.
Is there an age where your baby stopped being so attached to mum, and was happy with other people? Did a dad-bond develop naturally over time, or do I need to make more of a conscious effort to leave them alone together?
Thank you 😊
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I exclusively breast feed, my partner does majority of nappy changes when he's not at work and he always does bath time and gets my baby ready for bed before I give the last feed. This may help? My baby absolutely loves his Dad and often prefers to be with him when awake and playful now since making those changes x

The best advice I can give having been here myself, is get a muslin tuck it under the bottom of your bra so it flops down on your tummy for a whole day. Then get dad to use that so baby smells you xx

He needs to strap in tbh because it was 2 years before the mummy preference calmed down here. Things improved after 6 months but despite my husband doing everything, she just prefers me. He needs to try to remember it's not personal, baby is just used to one thing. They can build it up, don't go into "rescue" baby, put headphones in or leave the house and let them work it out between them. They will get there but he just needs to be consistent and patient, they need good time together, time together all three of you is also good. Going out places reminded my daughter she prefers her dad to other people so that helped as well. Mine's on the extreme end but I just wanted to say don't expect a magic change overnight, you might both need to adjust expectations. Make sure he's involved in as much care as possible. He can't feed bt there's a lot of other needs he can fill.

I’m only breastfeeding and my baby is 9 months old. She ADORES her dad . She makes the happiest sounds and biggest smiles for him. But I’m her number one for comfort and cuddles . It took a while though she cried when my partner held her for a few months .
If i don’t remember it wrong , I believe it shifted around 4 months ❤️ now I can leave them be for a few hours , but when it comes to bed time she will only settle next to me. But that I’m sure will pass too! Hang in there, I would say you dont need to do much. But for your partner to keep cuddling and playing will build a bond eventually. It’s just a bit of a slow burner ❤️

At 3 months your baby is only just coming out of the 4th trimester, where they think they're still a part of you, with no sense of self. So it's survival instinct to want to be in the safety of their mother. As suggested def get dad involved and responsible for nappy changes, bathing and play regularly so they develop.a routine. It'll get better x

19 months and my son still cries when I leave him in a room with his dad to go to the toilet or make dinner 😆

I exclusively breastfeed but the bond takes time its good that he is hands on just encourage him to continue and to work on making the baby relax around him especially when you can give him a bottle when ur running an errand or getting some rest it will eventually happen darling x (tip: wear one of his shirts so your milk scent lingers on it and he can familiarise his dada with comfort too)