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Anybody else have to sleep in the guest room because their husband has work tomorrow and the little nugget is extremely fussy 😩

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my husband refused to let me take the couch - hes been sleeping on the couch for ages and hasn't complained once. too worried to wake bub up or anything at night. I miss him in bed aha

My husband sadly sleeps in our guest room cause our daughter sleeps in the bed with me cause with her reflux, colic & gas issues she refuses to sleep flat or in the bassinet so Bobby pillow in the bed is the only way she will sleep. So with him working 12 hour shifts he sleeps in there now..and lord knows I miss my hubby cuddles so much

I’m literally doing that as we speak, and thankful it’s not just us going through it. It’s the only way she seems to actually sleep. As soon as we separate I turned the tv and everything on it seems to pacify her. Then she falls asleep and I’m stuck sitting in the dark on my phone with white noise sounds

Same here, during the week my husband sleeps in the guest bedroom as our little one’s night sleep is still unpredictable.

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I have lots of boundaries/rules with our baby- and with myself postpartum but my husband disagrees with all of them. I’ve tried to be reasonable and meet him half way but he refuses to. And so I feel helpless. For example, if I say no to anybody kissing our baby- but my husband says yes people feel free to do so. And I can’t stop this. We live with his parents so it’s been a nightmare. I can set a boundary with them but then he will say he doesn’t mind so they follow what he wants.

He’ll say as it’s his daughter too he doesn’t need to follow any rules. He can let who he wants hold her, kiss her, leave her with unsupervised etc even if it makes me uncomfortable. I don’t know what to do. I’ve started working part time again so boundaries are more important than ever as I’m not with her 24/7 anymore.

My FIL is particularly disrespectful of my wishes. He changes my baby’s meals even because he doesn’t believe she is getting the right nutrients! ( I have her in a specific plan because of her chronic constipation). And is always invading my privacy. I’m not comfortable with him at all. He touches my daughter with his dirty hands all the time and if I tell him not too, he says his son says it’s fine. Or if I don’t want them holding her, they’ll say their son has given them permission so they will etc it has been a thousand things. I’m wfh but supposed to be returning part time in office but know I don’t have the trust to do so.

Do I have no say? I feel so trapped. My husband has stated repeatedly he doesn’t care about my feelings on it and his parents should be able to do whatever they want with their grandchild. Honestly, I want to leave him but cannot imagine co parenting with him (and his parents) it would be torturous.

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