I’m finding it impossible to put my 12 week old daughter down for daytime naps and independent sleep at night.

She loves to sleep upright on on mine or my husbands chests… and happily falls asleep cross body after a feed (breastfed).

Im not expecting a full nights sleep from her, but I’d just love some independent sleep so I don’t feel prisoner to the sofa during the day and a worried co-sleeper at night!

My husband is adamant that there’s no point starting sleep training until she’s 4 months.. but I disagree!

Any tips are welcome!

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Awkward coffee meet vent

I'm looking for some advice, validation.
I'm feeling a bit poo.

So yesterday I met an old work colleague for a coffee.
We haven't spoken in 6 years.
We were very good friends until she one day turned on me and for the life of me don't know what I did.
I know she was grieving the death of a friend and I did attempt at the time to ask if I had done something because she wasn't talking to me in the same way and treating me very differently.
I was so hurt that I left my job.

6 years later she messages me because she noticed a photo of me online with my baby.
I suggested going for a coffee and she could meet my LO which she agreed.
We met and she was overjoyed with my baby, asked to have a cuddle and was so sweet with her.
The conversation between us was forced and she didn't really want to know anything about me or my life prior to baby.
I was trying to ask questions about her life, Famliy etc and it was like getting blood from a stone?!
I'm just a bit confused by the encounter?
It felt like she wanted to meet just to hold and gush over my baby- which is fine a guess...
Just feeling a bit flat by it and still believing I have still done something wrong...

How old was your baby when they showed a close bond with their dad?

My baby is currently 3 months old, and still showing a strong preference for mum. I'm exclusively breastfeeding, so completely expect to do all the feeds, but our baby also seems to need me to soothe and settle for naps.
My husband has always been keen to be a hands-on dad, but he's finding it quite demoralising that our baby often cried when left with him, and hasnt settled to sleep on dad since the early newborn days.

I left the baby with dad for a hour yesterday evening, while I had a doctor's appt, and apparently he scream-cri3d the whole time. My husband is feeling very discouraged that the baby doesn't seem to love/trust him, and I would really appreciate being able to have a break sometimes and leave the baby with his dad.

Is there an age where your baby stopped being so attached to mum, and was happy with other people? Did a dad-bond develop naturally over time, or do I need to make more of a conscious effort to leave them alone together?

Thank you 😊

High chair?

Hi all! My lo is 4 months and not fully sitting with his head up, however I want to get him a high chair to sit in whilst we eat our dinner. Any recommendations? One that will support his neck but then transition when he starts weaning? TIA

Feeling very possessive…

I’m sure it’s not just me but I’d love to hear from other moms about this. I’m feeling so incredibly possessive of this baby and like I need to maybe chill out? I don’t know… it’s my first baby so everything is very new and she’s only 3 weeks old. I’m still learning about her so whenever people offer to take her so we can have a “break” my mind goes crazy at just the thought. She’s just so little and fresh to the world, I couldn’t imagine leaving her for more than an hour with anyone, even family. My MIL offered recently, and I know it’s a spirit of offense coming in play here because she seriously pissed me off during baby’s birth, but I don’t think I could leave her with her GMA! MIL is also slightly narcissistic and a bit of a loud mouth so I struggle with trusting her. I don’t think she’d harm baby, but she makes slick comments that I’d prefer she didn’t put on my child while we’re away. A friend of mine offered to watch her while I napped and the thought made me cringe… I’d rather be tired than be away from her right now. Baby is EBF and pumping has been hard cause she’s constantly eating so I worry that she won’t be fed well or won’t settle for anyone cause she’s so used to being settled by my boob, she doesn’t take the paci and will literally gag if it’s in her mouth… but she’s such a good baby I know it won’t be a huge issue if someone watches her for a bit… idk 😭 my anxiety just won’t let me be away from her.

Baby sleeping though the night

I read so many mums saying their baby sleeps through the night but how ? My 3 1/2 month old is a good sleeper he goes to sleep around 7 half 7, but still wakes for feeds every 3-4 hours in the night

Burping BF baby if fallen asleep

Hi

I am exclusively BF and wondering if I should burp my baby after every feed? What do other mums do if the baby falls asleep at the breast at night? I’m worried that burping them will wake them.