Feeling very possessive…

Girl, I get it. I’m still pregnant and I already know I’m not gonna leave their side for months😂 (i’ll be a stay at home mom so this is possible for me)

I didnt survive those early weeks without my mum and sisters doing the occasional night shift for me. My baby didnt like being put down, so I was exhausted. But I trust them all, I wouldn't have taken the help from someone I didnt.

This is my second baby and I still feel this way. Doesn’t matter how many babies we have, MOTHER KNOWS BEST.
My MIL has been offering to take baby so we can have a date night and I’m just like naaah, I’m good. The thought of leaving my baby with anybody but dad gives me so much anxiety.

Completely normal! I’ve always been very chill and in the first month especially I exercised insane levels of self-control in order to stay as chill. The truth is this: anyone offering to take baby off you in your “forth trimester” as help, isn’t actually helping. They might mean well, but it’s biologically distressing for mother and baby to be separated (even if in the same room). I had unjustifiable levels of anxiety whenever someone, no matter how trustworthy or experienced, held by baby. I couldn’t help but to hover. I would just reply to any offers of “looking after baby” with “thank you, but I’ll be spending this time to bond with my baby. If you’re offering to help, (this task) would really help me/us out” for things like: cooking, cleaning, decluttering, running errands, etc. It’ll clearly spell out your boundaries and your preferences, whilst still giving them to option of opting in or out

Don't worry about it. It's so normal. She's just three weeks. She was cooking inside you for months, of course you're attached. Eventually there'll be a day where you make the choice. I went to get my nails done. But it was hard at first. I couldn't go to the grocery store without her and I am still recovering from the birth because I had surgery after the birth to correct something and still struggle to pick her up so I needed help. Idk if you're a SAHM but you may eventually go. Being apart, playing with other kids is eventually gonna be apart of healthy development but for now that is not your story. Enjoy your time and worry about this months down the line if this doesn't change

I was like that at first, too. I calmed down some around three months or so, but I still don't like when people I don't know very well hold her

It's normal! My two were in icu for a month i did not get to be completely with my babies i went home and they stayed at the hospital! I was so tored up for both my pregnancies. When they got home they were mines i wanted no one holding them. 🤭 No they are 5 and 8 the biggest pains in my behind🤣 But myone and only joy. 🥰 so girl.enjoy every bit and noment u can they don't last long. It is never wrong to love ur baby how ever u do that is why we are called mothers and nuturers. 🫶

I’m the same, and honestly a 3 week old baby? No way i leave them with anyone other than dad and even then it’s just to shower or sleep but under the same roof! I don’t even have visitors until after the 6 weeks mark😅
It’s very normal to feel this way, and leaving baby with someone if you need it and it will help you it’s great, but if it will create anxiety it’s not helping anyone. Follow your gut mama xx

It’s normal, that was me during the first four months, I didn’t want anyone touching her or coming near her, the idea of a ‘break’ or even going into another room while she was in her bassinet and out of my sight was maddening and anxiety inducing. It gets better over time, eventually the mom guilt will lessen too the more you allow time for yourself. Give yourself grace.

My husband couldn't have our baby for himself for the first few weeks. Then it was very progressive. I mean that baby is in your body for a full 9 months. I personally don't get how I would feel comfortable giving my baby around at a very early stage. Don't know if it's normal or not but it was this way for me. And fortunately my husband respected my times and needs. Now he is 2.5 years old and he is going to nursery half day, I got back to work, I m with him full afternoon and I feel we have an amazing bond and his dad ALSO has an incredible bond with him. Keep that baby over you the time you need. (No one would take a baby tiger from mama tiger right? Why do we forget we, humans are instinctive mammals too?)