How important do you think it is to show up for your children’s school functions? (Plays, recitals, concerts etc)

I show up to everything for my son, big or small. I’ve taken an afternoon off from work to watch his Halloween parade where they just walk around the school in their costumes. No matter how big or small. I feel like showing up matters.

My bonus girl came home today saying yesterday she had a concert in school where she played her instrument and all the parents showed up but her mom didn’t. Her mom is mainly in charge of everything education related because they live 1.5 hours away in another state. However her mom never communicates with us education related things. We have to pull teeth to get copies of report cards or to be notified of anything going on at school.

I feel bad because my son had a ceremony after school yesterday which we attended but if her mom would’ve informed her we could’ve made it to both their milestones. When I asked her how she was feeling that no one showed up, she said sad & it broke my heart.

in our community

Is this acceptable?

We had an awful incident in the park today. My daughter (who is only 2 and a half!!!) was playing and this boy the same age came into the tunnel. I heard her scream I want to get out and then the other mum came over and was like shouting and saying that it isn’t kind and that you have to share and what a horrible child etc. I thought she was speaking to her own child but when I went in and said please can you move over and let her out the mum was like your child can’t behave like that and then I realised she was talking to my daughter and telling her off! She claimed that my daughter had kicked her son, I didn’t see this or believe that it happened as I was watching and her son didn’t look upset or flinch at all. I do know she isn’t an angel and doesn’t always like to share, she’s learning, she’s 2 and a half!

I asked her politely not to talk to my child like that and she went mental saying that the world doesn’t revolve around her, of course I think she’s perfect and I’m raising an awful human being and not fit to be a parent. She was also imitating my little girl. I was with two friends, one who is male, who stepped in and said it wasn’t acceptable and that the women absolutely should not be talking to a 2 year old like that as well as to me. She then started saying that it wasn’t okay for a man to be arguing with her and he was a waste etc. I know it shouldn’t bother me because she was just an absolute idiot but it’s really affected me and I’ve cried a lot about it. I just wondered what other people’s thoughts were?

Worst of all my little girl keeps asking why the lady was shouting and saying she’s scared to go out in case she sees that lady.

Kisses

Interested to know why some parents don't let other family members kiss their baby?

Baby refusing solids 🤯

Hi everyone! My baby is 8 months old. We’ve been trying to introduce solids since 6 months. He used to eat small amounts of purees but now refuses completely when I try to offer more textured (mashed) foods instead of purees. I’ve tried so many different foods but he refuses all of them. Has anyone experienced something like this? I’m not sure what to do. I don’t want to force it but it also doesn’t seem like he will accept it on his own.

Was I wrong?

Recently a dear friend of mine passed away, her daughter is also friends with my girls, 6 &5. I invited their friend to my girl's birthday party, and with that I thought it appropriate to mention to my kids that her mother passed away, in case their friend mentions it. I told my girls without their dad present, and instructed them they should not bring it up. He would probably have preferred not saying anything, but I don't want my kids blindsided if their friend mentions it

My husband told me next time we need to do the conversation together. He's a bit more hush hush about discussing certain with our kids as opposed to me. I prefer honest facts opposed to using "kid" terms.

Nervous about leaving him

Hey, my LO will be 8 weeks this Sunday, im going on a hen do tomorrow and im absolutely terrified - i really dont want to miss it as it’s my sisters hen do and im the MOH so id be devastated. But im really nervous about leaving my baby with his dad.
Dad is great with baby, he has him a lot through the day, does feeds, nappies, playtime etc. he works from home so they do get a lot of time with each other but not like he does with me so he doesnt settle well with him. He still comes to me for comfort. I know this is normal, but how am i supposed to leave them tomorrow, i feel absolutely terrible, does it pass? Any advice?

Stolen Bond

I feel like my bf and his mom have stolen my bond with my baby. Upon becoming pregnant I suffered from depression and ofc when I had the baby I suffered from postpartum all the way up until he was about 1 years old.

I wanted the crib on my side of the bed so I could bond with him as I severely needed it and my bf put it on his side… every-time I would wake up to change my son at night my bfs mom would scoop him from my arms and demand I go back to bed. They would never let me be alone with my son. He’s 1.5 and only now have been allowed to go on a walk alone with him. They are Always hovering or taking him away from me. I was told I can’t co-sleep even though I felt like it was a good bonding experience to have that akin to skin with him but they would always berate me for it when I tried.

Turns out his moms been plotting to try and take my son from me and even though I set a boundary for her not to be around my son after she admitted that my bf still allows her to interact with our son.

I’m so lost and feel like I’ve missed so much of my sons life due to them always blocking us bonding and blocking me from being a mother. Has anyone ever experienced this?