Am I being gaslit right now?

I’ve always done everything related to our sons care, my husband really struggled with adjusting to parenthood and had a bit of depression, he would never hold our son as a newborn and would get unnecessarily angry when he wouldn’t sleep or would cry etc. We’ve worked past it now and he is a lot better. My husband does a lot to support around the house, he makes most the dinners and walks our dog but I still do the majority of child related bits. I do every bath time, all the night wakes, getting him dressed every day, packing his bags, most the feeds and bedtimes.

Anyway last night he suggested we swap and I cook the dinner, walk the dog and change the bedding. I still made our sons dinner and he fed it to him, he done bedtime but our son didn’t settle so I took over and I still done all the night wake ups.

Out of the list he gave me I didn’t end up changing the bedding as I hadn’t stopped doing things since I got in from work and I simply forgot. This morning he came at me saying ‘you didn’t change the bed yesterday so you need to do it, I would’ve managed to do it yesterday’. He’d set me up to try prove a point and I was honestly so shocked that I flipped and told him to F off and leave me alone.

He’s now threatening to leave saying that I need to apologise for the way I spoke to him, it’s all my fault.

But I feel like he just completely set me up so he could try to one up me, and now it’s somehow my fault even though he came at me first? This isn’t the first time things like this have happened and I am always apologising for reacting, I don’t remember the last time he said sorry for anything he done.

Can someone tell me if I’m in the wrong? I’m just so exhausted and feels like he’s playing mind games with me.

in our community

Is this acceptable?

We had an awful incident in the park today. My daughter (who is only 2 and a half!!!) was playing and this boy the same age came into the tunnel. I heard her scream I want to get out and then the other mum came over and was like shouting and saying that it isn’t kind and that you have to share and what a horrible child etc. I thought she was speaking to her own child but when I went in and said please can you move over and let her out the mum was like your child can’t behave like that and then I realised she was talking to my daughter and telling her off! She claimed that my daughter had kicked her son, I didn’t see this or believe that it happened as I was watching and her son didn’t look upset or flinch at all. I do know she isn’t an angel and doesn’t always like to share, she’s learning, she’s 2 and a half!

I asked her politely not to talk to my child like that and she went mental saying that the world doesn’t revolve around her, of course I think she’s perfect and I’m raising an awful human being and not fit to be a parent. She was also imitating my little girl. I was with two friends, one who is male, who stepped in and said it wasn’t acceptable and that the women absolutely should not be talking to a 2 year old like that as well as to me. She then started saying that it wasn’t okay for a man to be arguing with her and he was a waste etc. I know it shouldn’t bother me because she was just an absolute idiot but it’s really affected me and I’ve cried a lot about it. I just wondered what other people’s thoughts were?

Worst of all my little girl keeps asking why the lady was shouting and saying she’s scared to go out in case she sees that lady.

Baby refusing solids 🤯

Hi everyone! My baby is 8 months old. We’ve been trying to introduce solids since 6 months. He used to eat small amounts of purees but now refuses completely when I try to offer more textured (mashed) foods instead of purees. I’ve tried so many different foods but he refuses all of them. Has anyone experienced something like this? I’m not sure what to do. I don’t want to force it but it also doesn’t seem like he will accept it on his own.

Was I wrong?

Recently a dear friend of mine passed away, her daughter is also friends with my girls, 6 &5. I invited their friend to my girl's birthday party, and with that I thought it appropriate to mention to my kids that her mother passed away, in case their friend mentions it. I told my girls without their dad present, and instructed them they should not bring it up. He would probably have preferred not saying anything, but I don't want my kids blindsided if their friend mentions it

My husband told me next time we need to do the conversation together. He's a bit more hush hush about discussing certain with our kids as opposed to me. I prefer honest facts opposed to using "kid" terms.

Stolen Bond

I feel like my bf and his mom have stolen my bond with my baby. Upon becoming pregnant I suffered from depression and ofc when I had the baby I suffered from postpartum all the way up until he was about 1 years old.

I wanted the crib on my side of the bed so I could bond with him as I severely needed it and my bf put it on his side… every-time I would wake up to change my son at night my bfs mom would scoop him from my arms and demand I go back to bed. They would never let me be alone with my son. He’s 1.5 and only now have been allowed to go on a walk alone with him. They are Always hovering or taking him away from me. I was told I can’t co-sleep even though I felt like it was a good bonding experience to have that akin to skin with him but they would always berate me for it when I tried.

Turns out his moms been plotting to try and take my son from me and even though I set a boundary for her not to be around my son after she admitted that my bf still allows her to interact with our son.

I’m so lost and feel like I’ve missed so much of my sons life due to them always blocking us bonding and blocking me from being a mother. Has anyone ever experienced this?

Frustrating 😞

I have a 13 month old baby who goes to nursery 3 days a week while hubby and I go to work. She's exclusively breastfeeding but has cows milk off everyone but refuses from me. She constantly wants the boobs with me when I'm home. She's an absolute angel with everyone apart from me!!
She will be whinging all day and I don't go out on my days off cos I'm just so exhausted. I keep feeling down that I don't get myself out on my own with her, I will only ever go out with her when hubby is off. She's very attached to me, I love it but at the same time I just need her to be a little more independent and just be happy but it just feels like a massive battle 😔
Can someone help me with this?!

Do you have a cleaner?

Just wondered how common it is to have help and how many of us go it alone