Maternity leave anxiety!

I finish work in 3 weeks. I am terrified. I have no friends, as in zero. I speak to nobody other than my partner or mum when i am not at work. I felt so lonely on my last maternity leave and that played a huge part in me getting postnatal depression. I don’t know what to do or how to make some friends but i’m so scared of going through it all again.

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Find a mums group chat, I’ve literally started leave today and I’m on the way to brunch with the ladies (new mums) who I don’t even know. Put yourself out there mama x

trust me i’m in the same boat as you! all of the people who i thought were my friends during my first maternity leave never checked in with me and by the time i went back to work everything had changed and it was so hard to readjust. i’m now on my second maternity leave and at a new job and so far only one person has shown any type of concern and interest in me. i find it so hard to keep friends because between daily life and my 3 year old, i have no time to do anything. that’s why i joined peanut in hopes to feel a little less alone, and hopefully be able to meet up with and make new mum friends as they’re truly the only people who know how hard it is when you’re in the trenches and don’t get mad when it takes 3 days for a response!

if you ever want to talk, shoot me a text and i’m happy to listen:)

I had just moved and didn't know anyone on my first maternity leave. One of my neighbours happened to have a baby due within days of my twins and I met another friend on this app who I still meet up with and our kids play together. I met other Mum friends through baby and toddler groups, rhyme time at the library etc. It's just getting out and about when you can and finding local Mum on this app for coffees etc. Maybe look at some planned support gor yourself as well, like NHS counselling- you get prioritised when pregnant/postpartum. I had a family volunteer from Homestart when my twins were newborn and we're still friends now. She was amazing to chat with. You've got this xx

Get yourself to a pregnancy group now to meet people eg aqua natal or pregnancy yoga. Once you’re ready book into a few different baby groups and try to chat to other mums whilst you’re there and exchange numbers. Also try using this app to wave at local people and make connections that way. All three of these helped me to make mam friends with babies the same age last time but you do need to put yourself out there a bit x

Where are you from, feel free to message me x

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Condom broke

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Comments that irritate

‘This is why you shouldn’t have kids unless you are married’

Someone said this to me on a video I commented on tik tok, however I was with my ex HUSBAND 10 years married 3 and a half before we had babies. A piece of paper makes no difference.

Maybe the signs were always there but I feel he definitely changed after I got pregnant with our eldest…

Annoyed

Last night my boyfriend was actually horny for once we was kissing and I was wanking him off then he cum and that was it no sex so it did nothing for me when he knows I’m not happy about the lack of sex it’s now been 12 days . I then thought we would go on to have sex a little bit later but he just went to sleep? Is this weird ? I’m thinking it’s lazy and selfish .

Soooo I'm pregnant again

I'm pregnant with my second baby, around 10 weeks now and my daughter it's only 18 months 🫪 it was not planned but that doesn't mean it's not loved, the issue comes because me and my baby daddy have been going through a really hard time in our relationship and to be honest we were separated for 3 months last year and decided to try again and this past month and the beginning of may were pretty rough we almost decided to separated for good this time, argument were getting a little too heated and I was done to be completely honest I wanted out.
My family and friends already don't love the idea of me staying because they don't like him because of the last time we separated he was pretty mean and petty and just not being a good father or a good man in general so now I have to go and spend a weekend with family and hide a pregnancy that they would be so disappointed and probably not happy about and still I don't know when I would be able to tell them because of all of this I'm just scared and I can already heard all the things they want to say or will say and I just don't want it. I'm scared and It doesn't even feel real to me because of everything that happened
My baby daddy and I talked and we came to the conclusion that we want to keep trying to be better and make it work for us and our family, but I also don't believe it 100% and I have people telling me things about him and I just hate it all I hate being in this situation he won't even be able to stay with me over the weekend with my family for the same reason and I'm just so done with all of this I'm tired I don't know what to do or say or even think at this point 😭😭😭😭
I'm sorry it's so long and I'm just venting because I can't talk like this or about this with anyone around me. 🙃