Do you think trans children grow out of being trans?

I have a trans child. They came out at 13. They started T last week.

I think it’s reasonably common. I went to school, throughout primary and secondary with a girl who even when we were 6 years old said she wanted to be a boy. She always had her hair short and even told us that she had been saving up her pocket money throughout her childhood to have a ‘sex change’ (that was the vocab used back then). I recently reconnected with her and she’s very much a female, married to a man, with children and happy living as a female. It’s a very tricky situation, but personally I would support my child no matter what but I wouldn’t want them to make any permanent changes until they were an adult.

I think some do, some don’t. It’s not really a black and white thing.

I was a very unhappy teenage girl with a deep hate for my body growing up. I grew out of it after a few years but others might not have. I do know a few people who said they were non binary that have since decided they aren’t but again, there will be others that don’t.

I think kids who “grow out of it” technically exist, but I don’t think that’s the right verbiage. I think the kids who “grew out of it” figured out who they actually were, and any phase of their life they went through was part of figuring it out. 🤷‍♀️

It’s just a phase

I believe they are exploring their possibilities and they may change it they may not. My daughter is 12 and she says she's nonbinary and by sexual but she hasn't even kissed someone boy or girl. So I think their is a possibility she is what she says she is but I also believe she may just be exploring her options and may not be nonbinary or bisexual like she says she is. 12 almost 13. I don't think she completely knows what she wants but in support her decision whatever it may be as long as she loves herself and is a good person. I told her it doesn't matter as long as she is happy with her decision. I however would not support her getting a sex change as a teenager. She needs to be older if she decides she wants that. I personally hope she doesn't want to do this but I will support her if she is over 18. So far she says she likes being a girl but sometimes wants to be a boy. She may just be a tomboy idk. She will find out as she grows up what she truly wants. For now I just her have fun with it.

The detransition rate is pretty small and within that, the research we have so far indicates a very small minority of people regret invasive treatments/ surgeries after becoming trans.

Life is all about going through phases, most of them are pretty low stakes, switching up your aesthetic and beliefs, but the important thing is to let people have the freedom to forge their own path and to keep in mind that people who undergo hormone therapy or surgical transitioning actually have a regret rate lower than other more normalized procedures like breast augmentations or even knee and back surgeries

I don’t think a truly trans child will just “grow out of it”. I personally know a child who came out as trans while young, mom was supportive, got her in therapy, and eventually came out as not trans. For her it was just a step in finding who she is as a person and coping with other things going on in life. Because of this situation I sort of understand the wanting to wait for a little, especially if the other family may not be the most supportive, but there’s a fine line between waiting and trying to silence them or get them to change

I think teens in general, trans or not, go through “phases”. Being a teen is very hard. I’ve watched video testimonials of people regretting it but again, I think it’s about truly finding yourself and being happy in your own skin. It’s a deeply personal matter.

Kids go through phases where they try on different identities. If they do grow out of it, they were never "trans." They were just questioning to figure out if they were or not, and found they were not. If they ARE trans, then they don't grow out of it, and if they aren't, then they never were.