Is anyone a health visitor - need advice 🙏🏼
I’m severely struggling as a single parent with no family or other parent.
My toddler is well turned out, cared for, eats well, bathed, cuddled, loved, has external social activities. I give my everything to my child. So they’re not lacking. They are safe.
But I’m not well. Mentally and physically.
I can’t wash, feed myself well, lack of happiness in any aspect. Exhausted. Falling behind on so many things apart from maintaining my daughter.
Going through some external life issues which are exasperating life in the last yr or so. I can’t cope, I’m so low. I’ve had worrying thoughts about maybe it’s best I end things with myself and our pets. And let my daughter be free of everything that’s going towards me failing to survive myself. So lost and falling apart physically and mentally.
I can’t let my daughter down as she’s so attached to me. But I can’t cope.
The toddler phase has ramped up and I don’t know how to deal with the meltdowns. I don’t know how to fix myself. I don’t want her to create a bad start to how she see’s life because I’m hanging by a thread. Sometimes (a lot lately) feel she deserves better.
There’s so much to unpack that I can’t verbalise.
appreciate people might reply and say you’re doing a good job, or it is hard, etc.
But I really need a health visitors opinion on what support I may get. Without them thinking I’m saying I can’t be her mother.
This isn’t coming out well, but I’m dying inside. I don’t want to wake up. I have to admit I can’t do this and she deserves a big family and not a mother drowning in this life