Touching babies face/hands

I’m currently 10 weeks postpartum and really struggling with knowing what boundaries to have in place for my baby. Originally my rules were no one visited if they had a cold, absolutely no kissing and also no touching his face or hands. These are still what I want as my rules but people are naturally beginning to touch his face and hands without thinking. It doesn’t help that he’s recently discovered his hands so constantly wants to put them in his mouth. I know everyone has their own boundaries and there’s no right or wrong but I’m beginning to feel I’m possibly being a bit over the top? Is it unreasonable to ask this of people?

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Is anyone a health visitor - need advice 🙏🏼

I’m severely struggling as a single parent with no family or other parent.

My toddler is well turned out, cared for, eats well, bathed, cuddled, loved, has external social activities. I give my everything to my child. So they’re not lacking. They are safe.

But I’m not well. Mentally and physically.
I can’t wash, feed myself well, lack of happiness in any aspect. Exhausted. Falling behind on so many things apart from maintaining my daughter.
Going through some external life issues which are exasperating life in the last yr or so. I can’t cope, I’m so low. I’ve had worrying thoughts about maybe it’s best I end things with myself and our pets. And let my daughter be free of everything that’s going towards me failing to survive myself. So lost and falling apart physically and mentally.
I can’t let my daughter down as she’s so attached to me. But I can’t cope.
The toddler phase has ramped up and I don’t know how to deal with the meltdowns. I don’t know how to fix myself. I don’t want her to create a bad start to how she see’s life because I’m hanging by a thread. Sometimes (a lot lately) feel she deserves better.
There’s so much to unpack that I can’t verbalise.

appreciate people might reply and say you’re doing a good job, or it is hard, etc.

But I really need a health visitors opinion on what support I may get. Without them thinking I’m saying I can’t be her mother.

This isn’t coming out well, but I’m dying inside. I don’t want to wake up. I have to admit I can’t do this and she deserves a big family and not a mother drowning in this life

Bathing baby

Hi

This may seem like a stupid question…

My little boy is 14 weeks old , we currently have a nappy changing station with a bath attached were we have been bathing him however he is now getting to long for it , I have a collapsing bath which he is also to big for. I have a shower no bath , any ideas where/how I can bath him ? 🫣 Thank you!

iPad

What age is advisable to buy your child an iPad? Or what age did you buy your child one

How do you love yourself postpartum?

I am real struggling feeling me again after having two kids in two years. No drive to do my hair or make, or to dress up. I’ve gained over 60 pounds. Currently in therapy and trying some new meds but can anyone relate? How do you feel beautiful postpartum? (Before and after kids - please don’t judge)

The crash

Anyone watch the documentary about Mackenzie shirilla? No doubt in my mind she is guilty and her parents too. They enable her behaviour and let her do whatever with no consequences. For her mother to get up on the stand AFTER the two boys families and beg for a lesser sentence and not mention the boys except the one was a new friend… terrible. She did it, she meant it too. I believe she intended to kill herself as well but she didn’t die so they’re making up anything to make her not guilty. Disgusting.

How are you getting so little sleep?

My little one is 3 wks old and since birth I've not had more than 3 hrs sleep a night.
I honestly don't know how I'm functioning
Surely this isn't healthy.

Any advice?