Sleeping/Sleep training

O I am going to say it. I feel awful. Grace, my LG, is 10.5months. She is exhausted, drowsy and had her bedtime feed.

Normally she falls asleep at the bedtime feed and we cuddle together until she's fully settled and then I put her in her cot.

Now she's in her cot crying her eyes out. I have gone in a few times already, settled her and put her back down. I am now sat on floor outside her room silently crying, I feel so guilty.

We had it down a couple of weeks ago, but recently I even try and put her in her cot and it's like world war 3.

I need it to get easier. Some people have said I should go pick her up and bring her out, but I know if I cave in, she'll expect it every time. If she was doing the hungry cry, then I would bring her out, but no, SHE'S EXHAUSTED!!!

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Rock her to sleep? Sounds like she’s overtired. You will get through this phase x

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We did ferber at 6 months. Vest desision we made. My 10 month old settles at bedtime by himself. We bath, nurse, cuddle with a rocking and a song and he goes into the cot awake. He is usually asleep within 10 minutes with 0 fuss. Naps are a different story, but im not greedy 😂

Its tough, but if you stick with it, it will be worth it

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When we sleep trained the best thing I did when she was genuinely upset (crying etc) was settle her, fully if needed. I used nap times for training (they're less stressful than night time) and built up from there. Not going to lie, it was 3 full months, but it was 3 full months where it steadily got better and better and now she goes down awake (sometimes protests but rarely cries) and she takes herself off to sleep. Same if she wakes through the night.

I've gone from 2-3hr bedtimes to 20 minutes and have my evenings back.

Start by getting lo used to the cot, put her in while you tidy her room etc, let her know its a happy saf space etc xx

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Also look at wake windows, lowering her bedtime drastically was a massive game changer, I was of the mindset that trying a later bedtime would mean shed be exhausted and would settle faster or sleep longer but nope, backfired massively.
Overtired babies can create tougher bedtimes and more wake ups I have found. Xx

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