Introvert bestie looking for any bestie 😭

Hey lovelies! I’m a 24 year old mama of 3 kids, a SAHM and 420 friendly!

About me: I like to read when I can, bake or cook, I do sometimes play Xbox and mobile games as well! Sometimes I’m listening to music, a book, or sometimes podcasts of true crime. Of course I’m obsessed with ice coffee!!

Hoping to find a friend who doesn’t mind messaging, FaceTime calls or audios, understanding the chaos of mom life but also won’t ghost after a day or so! Bonus if you’re in the same state if not totally down for internet besties

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Mates!

Hey all! Send me a message I'd love to make some friends ❤️

Stay at home moms do you have a hustle?

Do you have a side hustle/ job? If you’re not working. I’m looking for ideas on how to make a little bit of money on the side this summer. It’s just hard with my two kids being so young.

Freinds

Anyone in clute Texas need some freinds

No judgments but I need advice

So me and my husband have been together for a while now.When we first got together , it was a little rocky see , he has this ex and she's the literal definition of crazy.He dated her from month and a 1/2 and broke up with her.Because she cheated on him with her baby dad and another guy she ended up pregnant and said it was my husband's he h
Told her from the get even when they first got together that he didn't want kids at the time as he was trying to finish college amd couldn't afford it so she knew he didn't and told him she was on birth control which was a lie so after she gets pregnant she says its his and he again said he didn't want to be a dad but he would step up but because of her cheating he wanted a DNA test and he did t want to be with her because she was drama and always played mind games and she cheated so she told him to fu** off and blocked him. Fast forward another month and she unblocked him to say she miscarried and that was it right ? Wrong after she blocked him AGAIN for 2 months she unblocked him again to say she lied about the miscarriage (which who lies about that) but she's aborting it amd blocks him again so months go by and me and him start to date ..she finds out about me and calls him crying that she didn't abort and she is keeping baby and wants to be with him and be a family he says no so she stalks me and harassed me to the point I had to get a restraining order but his family has her around still knowing how she is and what she put both me and him through so I wanna know are we wrong for not wanting anything to do with her or the baby she refuses a DNA and he's not sure its his and this girl is very psychotic and aggressive I know its not babies fault and I do feel horrible but she said she won't do DNA or let hin see the baby unless they are together idk what to do

Addressing Financial Abuse

Husband puts 2K a month on a debit card for me. Whenever he is upset that I have fled to my moms house to get away from him he drains the account.

The spend on that account is actually 4K a month bc of whatever other expenses hes attached to it.

I end up putting the other 2K on my credit cards and its hurting my credit.

When I ask for larger sums for a dental procedure called gum grafting he doesnt even answer me.

I can see from our text messages all the way back to when I first had the baby me telling my account is empty and I need money.

He refuses to set aside a meeting to budget. He has always been controlling and has 20 years army service in the special forces. He is good at justifying why I need to be "disciplined" or why my concerns are petty.

He routinely silences me when I air pretty much any grievance.

I start a new job tomorrow bc of this financial situation and he has said he does not support me having a job and will sabotage my job.

I already have a meeting with a divorce lawyer but dont actually want to divorce if I can salvage the marriage.

The job is a good first step. He is angry that I am at my mothers to start my job. She is watching my son and my job is work from home and flexible so I can also watch him throughout the day.

Talking to military family support clinic but the copay is 40$ per meeting and they mostly want to evaluate my mental health and talk about my feelings. Thats fine, but what Im interested in is finding solutions to this problem and lear ing about my husband's military mindset and how to communicate with him.

He says he will never go to therapy. He may or may not have PTSD. I dont diagnose people, I let the psych do it, but in my opinion he tends to despise me most when I am "weak" or vulnerable in any way and admire me most when I am "strong"

I see echos of this cull the weak mentality in army special forces interviews online.

A SAHM is vulnerable on every level and I think he is jealous the baby jas complete access to me but he doesnt get all the labor and attention out of me he used to.

Trying to think outside the box here on how I can raise grievances with hin without getting smushed.

I already am laying the groundwork for financial independence. He keeps threatening me with divorce but I am actually not interested in divorce if it can be avoided.

I do feel I am being actively abused and there is also screaming and smashing things around the baby which makes me uncomfortable

Anyone deal with these military family support places before? Are they actually useful or do we just talk about deep breathing and emotional regulation? Those things are fine but what I actually want is some accountability on his part.

A third observer actually interested in family justice could be an ally but I have low trust. I have read about women seeing a therapist and then having this later used as evidence that she is mentally unsound and shouldn't have custody of her kids.

I understand there are a lot of moving parts here.

Mom friends

I think it’s really important that everyone is asking the right questions to each other on this app! I made a connection with a woman, and turned out we had some core value differences, which was fine with me. Unfortunately it was not with her and I was harassed by her to “ explain myself” and bullied into thinking I was a bad mother. Women like this should not be on apps like this where other women are just trying to do their best. Please please don’t be that judgmental person to each other. If someone doesn’t see things the same way as you, just let it go, we are all in our own journeys and bullying someone is never the answer. Thanks for letting me vent guys!